DMussa
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- Sep 24, 2007
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I was in a rship with this guy for close to 3yrs. we had our share of ups and downs. though i wanted to marry him, i was afraid coz he was not open and we always had problems communicating.our rship hit the rocks due to this, he always came out defensive on very important issues about the future. So i chose to move on with my life, we didnt break up, i moved to a different city, a couple of months after i had moved, a friend of mine told me that he was getting married. I wanted to die to say the least. it was painful but i survived. now three months after he got married, he started writing to me, he apologised alot and told me how he regrets everything, that he married a woman he does not love and that he wants a second chance,anyway, to cut the story short, the wife has already left. He thinks we have a chance to make things work again. Please advice me,what wd u do if you were in my shoes. Confused!
Shishi,
I don't think that the idea of working things out is appropriate at the moment. My belief and probably what i have learnt is that Marriage is something so serious that no man can just get into and get out of it within 3months!!!!! If this is the case with your guy then be sure that once you are married sooner or later he'll regret marrying you and do the same to you. He can't stand by his decision!!! I doubt his maturity for such a behaviour
Also as other contibutors have mentioned communication is what keeps a rship alive... so if you don't communicate properly then something bad is growing up between the 2 of you.
On the other hand if you consider that no one is perfect and see the past as a mistake then you can Forgive and get back to try to work things out and see if you can or can't get married.
Remember all we are doing here is just to give you what we think but not to decide for you. Its better wewe mwenyewe kufanya maamuzi.