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What do u expect?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by the grate, Dec 2, 2011.

  1. the grate

    the grate JF-Expert Member

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    Well, what do you
    expect?" Has anybody
    ever asked you that?
    Sometimes, my greatest
    disappointments have
    come because I
    expected something
    that was simply not
    You may know that
    Robert Lucas won the
    1995 Nobel Memorial
    Prize in economics. His
    ex-wife received half of
    his $1 million award.
    Yes, his EX-wife. As it
    happened, when they
    were divorcing in 1988,
    she had her lawyer add
    one tiny clause to the
    property settlement:
    "Wife shall receive 50
    percent of any Nobel
    prize." And her clause
    had an expiration date:
    October 31, 1995. He
    won the prize on
    October 10.
    One would think that her
    expectation of him
    winning a Nobel Prize
    might be irrational. How
    many people do that?
    It's something like my
    winning the Iron Man
    Marathon by the year
    3000. That just won't
    But the difference is that
    I don't train, and she
    seemed to be sure that it
    was only a matter of
    time before his
    outstanding work would
    be recognized in such a
    way. Within seven years,
    she thought. So it turned
    out her expectation was
    entirely rational.
    (Ironically, Lucas was
    honored for an
    economic theory he
    called, "Rational
    I admittedly know
    nothing about Lucas'
    Theory of Rational
    Expectations in
    economics. But I do
    know something about
    irrational expectations
    among people. And I
    know that irrational
    expectations can cause
    untold disappointment.
    Like the expectation that
    someone else will make
    me happy. This is
    irrational. Nobody can
    make me happy. That is
    my job. If I expect others
    to make me happy or to
    keep me happy, I know I
    will be disappointed
    again and again.
    Or the expectation that
    life should be, for the
    most part, relatively easy
    and problem free. This,
    too, is irrational. Bad
    things happen. Living
    can be difficult. If I
    expect things to be easy,
    if I expect NOT to have
    problems, if I expect to
    avoid pain and
    heartache, I know I will
    be in for serious
    Problems are here to
    I don't mean to paint a
    picture of life as bleak
    and miserable. It isn't. In
    fact, I think it is
    amazingly wonderful.
    And all the more
    wonderful when I don't
    expect too much out of
    it. I expect problems, but
    I also expect to find joy. I
    do not expect others to
    always please me, but I
    do expect to be
    responsible for my own
    So…what did you
    expect? I think if you can
    answer that question
    well, you can expect to
    be much happier.
  2. Lizzy

    Lizzy JF-Expert Member

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    Expect less ,get more.
    Expect more ,get less (of what you expected) + more dissapointment.
  3. the grate

    the grate JF-Expert Member

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    u got it.