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What attracts women to older men?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Kimbweka, May 5, 2011.

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    Kimbweka JF-Expert Member

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    All of us have at some point heard someone saying that girls fall for men who look like their fathers, and now an expert has explained why this happens.

    Professor David Perrett, of the University of St Andrews, said that the characteristics of our parents are imprinted in our minds as children, so that we remember and recognise our parents from a very early age.

    This is a result of observing our families at close quarters and is seen in other mammals, reports the Daily Mail.

    But it seems these "remembered" characteristics do go on to influence who we find attractive in later life.

    The researchers conducted a large-scale survey, asking 300 men and 400 women (all of whom were in a relationship and who had been brought up by two parents) about their hair and eye colour, as well as that of their partner and their parents.

    From this information, they found that the main predictor for the choice of a partner's eye and hair colour - for men and women - was the eye and hair colour of the parent of the opposite sex.

    Your own hair and eye colour, or those of the parent of the same sex, were far less important, this means that if a man has a blonde, blue-eyed mother, he is quite likely to choose a blonde, blue-eyed partner.

    If a woman's father has dark hair and dark eyes, her partner is likely to have a similar appearance.

    But it's not just our parents' colouring that affects the partners we choose in later life – it's their facial features as well.

    Researchers at the University of Pecs, Hungary, compared individual photographs of young, married couples with individual photographs of their parents at a similar age to them.

    Participants in the study were asked to match up the newlyweds, and then pick out the couples' parents.

    The researchers noted that the participants identified a distinct facial resemblance between the young newlyweds.

    We've often found that people pick out someone of a similar level of attractiveness to themselves when offered a series of faces to pick from.

    This appeared to be one of the subconscious 'rules' people used when matching up the couples in this study.

    Then there were similarities in face shape; people paired up couples with matching features. Of most interest, however, was the similarity between a young man's partner and his mother.

    Again, observers found it surprisingly easy to match up the pictures of a man's mother with the pictures of the man's wife.

    Equally, in a separate study, it was found that young women's fathers looked very similar to the men they married.

    However, the participants of the study could not match the men's fathers to the men's partners - which proves that we don't like faces simply because they resemble familiar family members.

    We tend to be attracted to people who resemble our opposite sex parent.

    This is particularly the case when people have had a good relationship with the parent in question – and such an inclination could be because we want to replicate that good experience in our romantic relationships
     
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    Money talk and care no else!!That is it!
     
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    Social Security and not Sexual Security.....somebody gotta do that
     
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    I think some of the women are attracted to men because of the misconception that the older men are wiser or more caring in some way. Perhaps also because the women are hoping that the older man has lived a full life and is finally calm enough to want to start a new family. Sadly, I don't think this hope are always valid, an older man may have stopped "learning" (ie may be set in his ways). And if he's not in a durable relationship where babies are realistic prospect, by that age, chances are he is not going to suddenly decided that he wants to try. Men who have managed to become "older men" without being a family man probably have found a way to be happy and contented without that
     
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    hela tu na kula pension zao hakuna kingine ..ingekuwa ulaya ningesema wanataka makaratasi
     
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    security,hizo nyingine sina hakika sana.....:bange:
     
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    Urithi tu, hakuna jingine.
     
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    Women who are attracted to older men may be looking for a father figure
     
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    I personally believe older men (not old) to be more responsible,,, 24/7 the hustle don't stop...
     
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    ha ha ha ha ,hii safi sana,
    kwani ni short na ni very clear ...lol
     
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    TF upande wa kuangalia father figure... ni exceptions...huku niakiamini ni wachache sana.
     
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    da! ASANTE watu mmeamua leo....
    Kwa majibu haya ntapenda leo ni msomaji tu ,na mtoa thanks na like tu...lol
     
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    Hizo comments nimebaki najichekea tu
     
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    Acha ujanja nnunu nahitaji maoni yako hapa...
     
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    Ntasikia mengi leo...lol
    Lakin hizo research mmezifanya lini wapendwa...lol

    Hakuna mhusika wa haya mahusiano humu ndani atuambie kwake ikoje??,
    msichana au mvulana tafadhari jiachie toa ushuhuda basi, nasi utujuze
    nini hasa sababu zake???...lol
     
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    Yah!! Ni kweli ni wachache but money is merely a pleasant benefit and also the maturity factor
     
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    Sasa ntasema nini kama hivi wewe ,
    unaongea haya mapoint kibao...lol,
    mmeshanitangulia mbele ya akili zangu ,hapa sina cha kuongezea...lol
     
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    Mmmmh... Basi hapo wadada ndo hamtuelewi kabisaa!!!
     
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    Kwenye hili hauhitaji kufanya research huko mitaani tunakoishi we have seen things like this happening, wadada wengine wanakwambia kabisa " I am getting married, or i am dating that older man not because i love him but it's because of his money and fame hanisumbui kama hawa vijana wengine" kwahiyo nnunu you can understand
     
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    Nnunu nishakufaham dear... hapo umeandaa tu vibomu... LOL.... au unafikiri nimevisahau vyakua intact....LOL
     
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