Mara nyingi ndoa zote huanza na furaha tele pamoja na familia na marafiki,kila wanandoa wana ndoro na mipango mizuri kwenye maisha yao siku zijazo. But the road to a happy marriage is far from easy. Maisha ya leo yanaonyesha migogoro ya ndoa ilivyo & many couples opt not to complete the journey! Kupata hisia ya hii kiundani tuangalie maandiko yanasemaje: Mmojawao mwanasheria akamuuliza, akimjaribu [Yesu] "Mwl, ktk torati ni amri gani iliyo kuu?JYesu akajibu: "mpende bwana Mungu wako kwa moyo wako wote na kwa akili zako zote.' Hii ndio amri iliyo kuu tena ni ya kwanza. Na ya pili inafanana: Mpende jirani yako kama nafsi yako (Matthew 22:35-40) Naamini matatizo yote ya ndoa yanasababishwa na mmoja au na wote wawili kushindwa kutii amri hizi mbili.. The minute we begin to focus on our own wants and needs over those of God or our partner; were destined for trouble. Experiencing communication problems in your marriage? How often do you really focus on listening to what your partner (or God) has to say instead of insisting on more airtime? Feeling bitterness and resentment growing toward your partner? When was the last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying with your partner and asking God how he would like you to use your time? As you begin to do these things, youll notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication problems begin to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally want to spend more time together. Of course, you cant expect such changes to happen overnight. Your relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, childrearing issues and other problems that are beyond your control. But if you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to weather any storm. Not only that; youll also have plenty of fun together along the way! Have you struggled to find happiness in your marriage? Perhaps its time you and your spouse invited God to direct your relationship. If you would like to do so, we encourage you to pray the following: "Dear God, thank you so much for bringing us together as a couple. We know that you have a plan and a purpose for our marriage, and we invite you to forgive the past self-centeredness, come into our lives and relationship and direct our steps from now on. Please give us the grace to put you and each other first every day. Make our relationship a blessing to others. But most of all; make it a blessing to you. Amen."