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The Science of Love

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Allien, Jul 8, 2012.

  1. Allien

    Allien JF-Expert Member

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    The science of love

    When do you know if you fancy someone? What does love do to your brain chemicals, and is falling in love just nature's way to keep our species alive?

    We call it love. It feels like love. But the most exhilarating of all human emotions is probably nature's beautiful way of keeping the human species alive and reproducing.

    With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we're choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature's lovely plan.


    It's not what you say...

    Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone.

    Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather

    1. 55% is through body language
    2. 38% is the tone and speed of their voice
    3. Only 7% is through what they say

    The 3 stages of love

    Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals.

    Stage 1: Lust

    This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.

    Stage 2: Attraction

    This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.

    Adrenaline

    The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

    Dopamine

    Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck' couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward' by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!

    Fisher suggests "couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship" .

    Serotonin

    And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you're falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.

    Does love change the way you think?

    A landmark experiment in Pisa, Italy showed that early love (the attraction phase) really changes the way you think.

    Dr Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa advertised for twenty couples who'd been madly in love for less than six months. She wanted to see if the brain mechanisms that cause you to constantly think about your lover, were related to the brain mechanisms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.

    By analysing blood samples from the lovers, Dr Marazitti discovered that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients.

    Love needs to be blind

    Newly smitten lovers often idealise their partner, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their flaws says Ellen Berscheid, a leading researcher on the psychology of love.

    New couples also exalt the relationship itself. "It's very common to think they have a relationship that's closer and more special than anyone else's". Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted view. It makes us want to stay together to enter the next stage of love – attachment.

    Stage 3: Attachment

    Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.

    Oxytocin - The cuddle hormone

    Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm.

    It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.

    Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. It is also responsible for a mum's breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her young baby.

    Diane Witt, assistant professor of psychology from New York has showed that if you block the natural release of oxytocin in sheep and rats, they reject their own young.

    Conversely, injecting oxytocin into female rats who've never had sex, caused them to fawn over another female's young, nuzzling the pups and protecting them as if they were their own.

    Vasopressin

    Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.

    Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic hormone) works with your kidneys to control thirst. Its potential role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole.

    Prairie voles indulge in far more sex than is strictly necessary for the purposes of reproduction. They also – like humans - form fairly stable pair-bonds.

    When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses the effect of vasopressin, the bond with their partner deteriorated immediately as they lost their devotion and failed to protect their partner from new suitors.

    And finally … how to fall in love

    · Find a complete stranger.
    · Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour.
    · Then, stare deeply into each other's eyes without talking for four minutes.

    Source: The science of love
     
  2. Gwangambo

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    Thax mkuu, haya ngoja wapenda ngono waje, mimi napita wapi Erotica?
     
  3. gfsonwin

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    lol!..........kumbe humu jamvini wengine tumeshapewa classes? na miye je class yangu ni ipi?
     
  4. gfsonwin

    gfsonwin JF-Expert Member

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    Allien thanks very much, miye mchango wangu naukita kwenye bond strength between partners. ni kweli kuwa oxytocin ni hormone responsible for bond strength na hii huwa ina kuwepo kati ya mzazi na mtoto na pia kati ya wenzi wakati wa tendo la ndoa.

    siri kubwa hapa with all the biology/science of love ipo kwenye kitu ambacho hata psychologist hawawez kukielezea. Labda nikuulize hivi ulishawah kupata hali kama hii? yaani uko may be unafanya kazi yeyote nje na nyumbani ambapo yule wa karibu yako hayupo halafu ghafla ikakujia wazo juu yake na kujikuta nafsi yako ikistuka na kuona kama hata presha ya mwili inabadilika? especially kama usiku mlifanya mapenzi au kama yupo mbali safarini na unakuta hakuna sababu ya msingi iliyokufaya umkumbuke lakin imekuja over the sudden?

    kwangu mimi huwaga naichukulia hali kama hii kuwa ni kipimo cha bond strength. and nitabishana na wengi sana hapa lakina if the bond is strong lazima moyo uhamalike pale unapopata wazo juu ya mwenzi wako. nimejaribu sana kupitia mitandao na majirida ta relatioship sijaona mahali hili likipewa ufafanuzi wa kina.
     
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  5. PetCash

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    Kwa hiyo mkuu Allien, Tukijaribu kuwachoma sindano za Oxytocin hawa mama wa kambo wasiowapenda watoto wao wa kufikia tunaweza kupata matokeo tofauti. Or if I may ask kama nikiweza kuchanganya hizo chemicals(hormones) kwenye kinywaji cha mdada anaweza kunipenda for that instance of time?
     
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  6. SHIEKA

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    Gwangambo, wamuulizia Erotica ili aje kufanya nini kwenye hii thread? Kwamba yeye ni mpenda ngono? Tafadhali acha hizo.Kwanza thread hii haihusu ngono hata chembe!

    Naomba kukufahamisha kama hujui, kwamba Erotica ni my wife wangu hapa JF.Mpe heshima anayostahili.
     
  7. Gwangambo

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    Haaah haaaah, HYGEIA. Duuuh sikujua kwamba Erotica ana Mume Mzungu Mzee, ndio maana haridhishwi, Mkuu jitaidi kumfikisha, Lasivyo tutakupigia tu.:israel:

     
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    Nakushangaa Gwangambo kwa kushupalia avatar yangu na kutoka nje ya mada. Mada ni science of love. Erotica kuridhishwa au kutoridhishwa ni kitu kipya unakizua. Erotica mwenyewe atakuja hapa na atakueleza yote ambayo huyajui.
    Honey Erotica, come this way quickly and tell these guys esp.Gwangambo the truth.
     
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  9. Erotica

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    HYGEIA my caramel flavoured sweet darlin, punguza zile aibu zako tujirekodi tukifanyana

    ili tumtumie video Gwangambo ili asipate shida sana kwa ku imagine huwezi nikuna ipasavo.

    kubali tumuoneshe ili mizuka na ukichaa wetu wakati wa shughuli. come this way papito........ mwaaaaaaah.
     
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  10. mwaJ

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    Allien I might have not been so kin on the chemistry part of the research, but I kind of agree with the last part of your thread.
     
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    Erotica, Nasubiri hilo deo kwa hamu nikapige nyeto.
     
  12. SHIEKA

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    Gwangambo, kama wewe unayo pass ya kuingia Uwanja wa Wakubwa, Chungulia huko siku ya J2 utatukuta mimi na Erotica tukiwa kwenye mechi kali ya kombe la K. Nyeto utalipia kwa sababu utakuwa unatupunguzia utamu hasa utakapomsikia Erotica akilalama kwa raha.Wow Erotica my sunshine let's prepare for the JF video of the year. Will meet you at our usual place.
     
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    BENJAMINI SHAMBARIA New Member

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    I like it,Its so special dat make so charm 2day and make me aware.
     
  14. MwanajamiiOne

    MwanajamiiOne Platinum Member

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    Dah aksante sana kwa somo. I once asked the demarcation between love and lust................
     
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    Kabla ya kuanza hizi tafiti zako tafuta movie ya Dr Dolittle, ya Eddie Murphy.
    BAK, best wangu, plz ikiwezekana kwa rehema zako zisizoisha wala kupunguka, tafadhali muwekee PetCash trailer ya hii movie.
     
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    Hakuna familia inayoweza kushiba kwa chakula cha msaada kutoka familia nyingine!
     
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    Best nimeitikia wito wako huu ni mkanda mzima toka A mpaka Z

     
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    Naona kuna hints za jinsi ya kufall in love ngoja nikapractice mie:flypig:
     
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    Purple hebu njoo tujaribu kutazamana huwezi jua, tunaweza fall madly in love with each other
     
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    Asenti mkuu King'asti, long live and may the hormones flow in you for much much love
     
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