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That painful feeling of Loving where you are not Loved!!!

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by vanilla, May 3, 2012.

  1. vanilla

    vanilla JF-Expert Member

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    [FONT=&amp] Loving someone who doesn't love you back is the most impossible situation imaginable, especially when the love is so strong you are a slave to it.well here are some few tips to help you get over the person..
    [/FONT]First realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. If someone is not interested in you it is in your best interest to find someone who does love and adore you for who you are.

    It's not about getting over a person, it's about feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't really matter.

    Tough circumstance - being in love with someone who does not feel the same way as you do. It's not a problem. Do things for yourself, keep busy, bury yourself in work and keep searching for what you really want and need.

    If you truly, truly loved someone, then you'd be able to realize that it's OK if they don't love you back. True love gives and expects nothing in return; a true unrequited love. So, if you truly loved them, it doesn't matter if they feel the same way, your love conquers all.

    It is strange when you are hurting from rejection, to hear someone say move on things will be fine. No matter how much you love him/her, they never love you back. Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.

    If you believe in destiny then you have known that things happen when they are meant to be. Love always wins. Love is important and only it counts.

    Deal with reality. Stop hoping, dreaming, etc. Pray and tell God that you forgive them for not being able to love you. Ask God to take this from you - and He will. Then continue to deal with reality. Love the other person, Accept the reality and pray to God for the wisdom and strength you'll need to do that continuously until it ceases to become a problem.

    Try not to be in contact coz itÂ’s almost like an addiction. You think that one little text will do no harm but the pain when he doesn't reply will just make things worse.

    Time. Letting yourself grieve and actually being ok with that. Not forcing yourself to get over someone. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, cry, write about it, listen to sad songs. Soon you will feel so tired from hurting all of the time. You will be ready to move forward. Doing this without contact of the person you love is best.

    You accept yourself as you are, love yourself for who you are, forgive yourself for decisions and actions that have brought you pain, never settle for anything less than what you desire and deserve.

    You have to decide that there is now another step to climb in your life. There will always be happiness around the corner, everyone finds it. Happiness WILL come and find you. I wish you all the best for the future, keep smiling.

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    [/FONT] YOU NEVER STOP LOVING SOMEONE...YOU JUST LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT THEM!!!!

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  2. Kongosho

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    Mmmh, ukitendwa utakuwa mwanafalsafa wa mapenzi, mwisho wa siku maisha yanasonga mbele!
     
  3. The Finest

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    Kongosho vipi buzi halijambo...
     
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    Kongosho JF-Expert Member

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    Halijambo, nimelinunia leo hata salamu sijalitumia
    Linataka kunivunjia ndowa?

     
  5. matron

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    Vanilla are u ok my dear?is there anything happen to you?
     
  6. vanilla

    vanilla JF-Expert Member

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    yes am very okay.nothng happening.just found the guidelines somewhere and thought to share.
     
  7. vanilla

    vanilla JF-Expert Member

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    maisha lazima tu yasonge hatakama unapita juu ya misumari.inakuchoma lakini you have to go on.
     
  8. The Pen

    The Pen JF-Expert Member

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    You hit the nail on the head, vanilla!
     
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    Learn to see the signs and move on before you are hurt. These hoping and dreaming that someone will love you back it work work rather than put you more in the problems.
     
  10. chiko

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    Wameimba...Wameshairi......Omba yasikufike!!! KUMPENDA MTU ASIE KUPENDA!!!!, waeza tamani kunywa sumu!. Ni wakati mgumu sana sana. Poleni sana wanaokumbwa na mateso haya!!
     
  11. vanilla

    vanilla JF-Expert Member

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    mmmh hlo la kunywa sumu duh! Itakua too much.
     
  12. vanilla

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    yamekukuta??pole
     
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    I love you!
     
  14. MwanajamiiOne

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    Ni bora kupenda usopendwa na ukapewa sintokupenda kuliko kupenda usopendwa na kupendwa pasipo pendwa.... maana afadhali mtu akuonyeshe na kukukatalia kuwa hakupendi pamoja na kuwa umempenda kuliko kukupendwa kwa kuwa tu umempenda! akaamua kukupa penzi la huruma
     
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    vanilla JF-Expert Member

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    duh!bora akwambie tu kwamba haifai kuliko upewe penzi la huruma.uking'ang'ania sana ndo hvyo unaishia kuhurumiwa then maumivu bdae.
     
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    It happens! Just replace her with ndovu Special malt or kiroba! Things goes back to green!
     
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