1. Listen, listen, listen! Put down that newspaper (or television remote control) and let her know your focus is on her. 2. When she tells you her problems, try not to jump in with advice. A sympathetic ear may be all she needs. [If you have advice to give, ask her if she wants it.If she doesn't, then give her what she needs like a hug or just being there to listen to her. This will mean more to her than any advice you could ever give even though it makes no sense to you. The point is to give her what SHE needs not what you need to give her.] 3. Schedule a date with her once a week. And it doesn't have to be expensive.The goal is simply to create time for just the two of you. [You dated her before marriage which helped you both to fall in love with each other, now date her after marriage to help you to STAY in love.] 4. Surprise her with little things that show your affection a note, a funny card, a small gift, or flowers for no reason. She needs to feel you're thinking of her. 5. Do little day-to-day things that make her feel taken care of like filling her empty water glass, bringing her coffee in bed or turning down her side of the bed if you go to sleep before her. 6. Connect with her physically during the day. Kiss her when you wake up, hold her hand sometimes, touch her in non-sexual ways. She'll be nicer to you and your sex life may improve. [But be careful not to let that be your motivation or it may not.] 7. Let the kids be your responsibility now and then. That way, she'll get some time for herself for a change. [Keep in mind that they're your children also and this not only will give your wife a much needed time for herself it gives you the opportunity to connect with them also which they need from you too!] 8. Respect her. Don't make fun of her or berate her just because she doesn't think the same way you do. [The Bible tells us that "Love protects." This is a way of "protecting" her feelings that she desperately needs from you.] 9. When you're angry or upset, tell her why. Don't make her guess. [But do it in a respectful way. The Bible tells us to "speak the truth in love". That means to be motivated by your love for her to improve things between you.Things won't improve between you if you communicate with her in a mean- spirited way.] 10. Compliment her. And tell her you love her at least once a day.