sumu ya ndoa ni ...

[Msindima]

Hivi kuna kabila linalofurahia mwanaume kuwa bahili na pato lake?Naona wanaume nimewagusa sana hii sehemu...........Mwanaume kuwa bahili haipendezi kwa kweli.

Naunga mkono hoja.

 

[RealTz77]

Hii ndio siri ya ndoa kwangu​

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"To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"​

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[Teamo]

Hii ndio siri ya ndoa kwangu​

"To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.​

To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"​

are you HE/or SHE?

 

[RealTz77]

are you HE/or SHE?

am he ofcourse but has to help the other side too

 

[Katikomile]

Mjasiriamali hebu fafanua hapo kwenye red, sijakupata bado!

Ndoa ya kikatoliki ukioa umeoa, hakuna kuachana kwa visababu vya ajabu hata kama umemfumania mkeo labda kifo ama mmoja hawezi shiriki tendo la ndoa na iwe proved scientifically! Upo hapo!

 

[Lengeri]

Love transcend institutions, the birds and the beasts do not have institutions and ceremonies, but they know love too, some of them better than we do.

Institutionalizing something as complex as love is akin to computer simulating intelligence, you can try very much, but because the rules of computer programming can never attain the level of sophistication of natural human intelligence, what you end up with is of a much inferior nature than the real thing.

When we humans try to "institutionalize" love, with unnatural rules like "ye shall forsake all others" (how pretentious !) and "till death do us part" (really, If I believed in god I would almost say this was a blasphemious disregard for the hands of providence) we are watering down a truly wonderful phenomenon into one narrow manageable track.

We are trying to come up with formulaes to create some very natural phenomena, at the end of the process instead of coming up with a sustainable product, we create the choking plastic marriage that no wonder has either horrific oppressive results if it succeeds at all or most often in current years succumb to a split within the first five years.

So institutionalizing the natural order of things to a manageable degree of chaos only give us the least common denominator, which turns out to be bland and boring for most people, hence the increase of extramarital affairs. Institutionalizing love into marriage is akin to canning food, you get some artificial benefit (the food lasts longer for example, whic cannot be said of the marriage) but you end up with some major cancers, literally.

This devaluation of the natural order of things, this dumbing down of people to sets of "married" and "unmarried", this pretentious high mindedness and self-ascribed morality, is what I call the prostitution of love.

Many have realized this, consciously or subconsciously, and are now resorting to accepting that marriage is prostituted love, and in going along, they choose to marry for money or social position, completing the prostitution to their own perceived advantage, ramming the gear into this vicious cycle of prostitution one more layer.

That's why some of us will never engage in this prostitution of love.

mkuu VC naona umepata ulichokuwa unakitaka... wacha mimi nitafute dictionary kabisa...(nje ya mada)

 

[BiMkubwa]

Sumu ya ndoa ni uvivu
Sumu ya ndoa ni kutokujitoa kwa mwenzako

Nimepitia sijaona hayo yameandikwa

 

[Domo Kaya]

Sumu ya ndoa ni pale utakapoomba kujiexpress (tigo)!

Na sumu ya mapenzi yaweza kuwa kutomuomba mwenzio kujiexpress (tigo) wakati yeye kazoea huo mchezo, lazima aende nnje.

 

[Mrs Mtaba]

...Not revenging mwenzako amegapo/amegwapo nje.

 

[FirstLady1]

Hii ndio siri ya ndoa kwangu​

"To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.​

To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"​

mie mbona sijui hii lugha tafsiri jamani

 

[Lubaluka]

Sumu ya ndoa ni kutoridhishana katika ukanda wa mapenzi

 

[RealTz77]

mie mbona sijui hii lugha tafsiri jamani

okay for women- ili kuwa hapy anatakiwa amwelewe sana mumewe na kumpenda kidogo (kichwa huwa kinakua hapa)
for men- ili kuwa hapy na mke lmpende sana ( ndo anachopenda zaidi) ila usijaribu kumchunguza/kumwelewa kiundani kwani utaishia kugombana/kumwacha/kutompenda. anf this is a golden rule yeah!