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Sex or generosity, what counts most in marriage?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Candid Scope, Dec 14, 2011.

  1. Candid Scope

    Candid Scope JF-Expert Member

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    Sex or generosity? Study finds what counts most in marriage
    Generosity between spouses is a key element to a happy marriage, a new study says.
    In essence, generosity is the amount of giving that goes on within a relationship, which can mean anything from making your spouse a cup of coffee, to ordering flowers or providing a backrub. In the study, couples who reported a high amount of generosity in their relationship were five times more likely to say their marriage was "very happy," compared with those who reported a low amount of generosity. All couples in the report had children.

    Predictors of a happy marriage
    The study, part of the National Marriage Project,surveyed more than 1,400 heterosexual couples between the ages of 18 and 46.Fifty percent of women and 46 percent of men who reported above-average generosity in their relationship s described their marriages as "very happy." On the other hand, just 14 percent of each sex with below-average generosity in their relationship described their marriage as "very happy."

    Generosity works best if you give your spouse something he or she likes, Wilcox said. "[It's] signaling to your spouse that you know them, and are trying to do things for them that are consistent with your understanding of them," Wilcox said. But if, for example, your spouse delights in almond mochas, and you get her black coffee instead, it might not be very helpful, Wilcox said.

    Based on the responses, the researchers compiled a list of the top five predictors of a very happy marriage. For men and women, sexual satisfaction ranked first, followed by level of commitment (a sense of "we-ness"), generosity and a positive attitude toward raising children. For women, the fifth factor was above-average social support from friends and family, and for men, the fifth factor was spirituality within a marriage.

    Each relationship is unique
    While the factors identified in this study may be a guide to a good relationship, they are based on responses from a large population and don't necessarily apply to individual couples, Castro said. "Every individual situation is different," Castro said. For instance, a couple may find themselves falling into the 14 percent of couples who are very happy without a high level of generosity."Each specific relationship needs to be thought about individually, depending on both individual and partners' needs," Castro said.

  2. AshaDii

    AshaDii Platinum Member

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    In other words inakubaliana na the fact kua it is not that simple...
  3. rifwima

    rifwima JF-Expert Member

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    Ngoma zote if you want to retain the relationship. Generosity na kumridhisha mwenzako katika mambo. Lazivyo hakuna kitu.
  4. Kongosho

    Kongosho JF-Expert Member

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    Hebu niandikie kwa namba, maneno marefu mno
    Asante - Source sred ya Lizzy
  5. Jestina

    Jestina JF-Expert Member

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    basi ndoa za wabongo nyingi wanaume wako verry happy sababu wanawake wao wanawafanyia kila kitu mpaka kuwabrashia viatu!!!!ila wanawake mnh sisemi kama wako happy kwa sababu wao ni vijakazi...jamani eeg generosity goes both ways msikubali kuwa watumwa!!!
  6. Candid Scope

    Candid Scope JF-Expert Member

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    Wabongo safari bado ndefu, haki zz kijamii na kifamilia ni shirikishi si kufaidishwa na kutendewa mema mkuu wa kaya tu.