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Sababu Kuu 7 Zinazowafanya Wanaume Wakimbilie Kuoa - Wanawake Mpo Hapo?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Allien, Jun 6, 2009.

  1. Allien

    Allien JF-Expert Member

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    Marriage is a social obligation as well as something two individuals would like to get into after courtship. Although, many single women prefer to avoid marriage, yet marriage continues to be popular with both men and women.

    Women marry for their own reasons, generally for emotional and financial security. Men have other reasons, mostly companionship.

    Men prefer to settle down in marriage as quickly as they can. Once they like a woman and get close to her, they prefer to settle down in marriage.

    Why do they want to tie the knot so fast?


    Why Men Rush Into Marriage?
    • Men feel insecure that they may lose out on their woman. An attractive woman is a good catch, but also she can attract other men as well. Naturally, a man would prefer to make her his own as soon as possible.

    • Men prefer to settle down in matrimony as they would like to have a home of their own, a wife and kids. It provides them a sense of belonging.

    • It is easier for a man to manage his career well if he has someone at home to take care of his needs and look after the house.

    • Emotional strength is what a man needs at times. An understanding woman can give all the necessary emotional support to him during his difficult moments. He needs someone with whom he can share his inner most thoughts.

    • Men feel lonely returning from work to an empty house. They would like their house bubbling with a lot of noise and appreciate a wife receiving them and kids hugging them affectionately.

    • Men like to share their earnings with someone else. They like it when they are earning for someone. It provides a purpose in life for them.

    • Social pressure is also a factor why men rush into marriage. Peer pressure is always there, and they do not like to retain their single status far to long.

    Marriage is a tradition common to all societies. Men and women fall in love, settle down in marriage and have children. Men are always eager to propose to their woman so that they can settle down early in life.
     
  2. WomanOfSubstance

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    Thanks Allien for this candid expose from a man's point of view.
     
  3. Allien

    Allien JF-Expert Member

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    Tuko wote Mkuu! Ubarikiwe sana!
     
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    That men want to rush into marriage is news to me, it is certainly a refreshing counter-stereotype, contrary to the one I am used to which paints men as the one sex that usually drag their feet in the proverbial "fear of commitment".

    But it is a stereotype nevertheless.
     
  5. Nyani Ngabu

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    Me too, never heard of men rushing and being desperate to get married.
     
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    Well, times have changed...there's a rush among young graduates in Tz these days
     
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    I have witnessed a handful but that aint no proof that men rush into the thing.
     
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    Habari kama hii inatakiwa iwe supported na ka-research fulani. Otherwise ni maneno tu ambayo wewe na mimi tunaweza kuandika wakati wowote. Wanaume ni wagumu kuingia kwenye ndoa na pale wanapoweza wanazikwepa full stop.

    Kwamba siku hizi wanaume wanrush kwenye ndoa? remains to be proven..... Sijaamini.
     
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    Hiyo habari ya wanawake kupendelea kubakia single na ati wanaume ndio wanaokimbilia ndoa, ni utafiti kutoka nchi gani? Personally sijawahi kuona mwanaume anayekimbilia ndoa, badala yake nimesikia wanaume wengi wakituhumia 'kutoroka' au 'kupiga chenga' wanapoulizwa na wapenzi wao swali kama 'hivi una mpango gani na mimi?'. Kumbe wanaume ndio watuhumiwa wakuu wa kukwepa ndoa, sasa hii ya kuchangamkia ndoa imeanza lini? Namshauri mwanzilishi wa mada hii afanye utafiti kwanza au kama ni utafiti uliokwishafanyika atupe ripoti kamili tuifanyie critique.
     
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    NINACHOKIAMINI MIMI:wanaume would go for the ladies JUST TO USE THEM!i repeat,JUST TO USE THEM!finaly,they are forced to get married UNDER PRESSURE!they do it today,THEY BREAKUP TOMORROW MORNING!because the very man has already quenched his thirsty

    WOS can give us the statstical records of BREAKUPS,currently or during last five years,utanote kitu fulani
     
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    And what makes u think im custodian of such data? LOL
     
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    HAHAHAH!
    MY LAWYER,i really trust you anyways
     
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    Hhahahahah... i know u were kidn!

    Geoff.. u will be surprised that many breakups hufanyika kimyakimya... watu wanakubaliana kuachana hakuna cha talaka ya mahakamani ambapo ungepata data...
    Hata wanaume TZ wameanza kuondoka na kuwaacha wanawake nyumbani..siyo kama zamani mwanaume anamfukuza mwanamke halafu yeye anabaki nyumbani.
     
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    What do you mean exactly by "USE THEM" ? Do you mean sexing them? or exploiting them or what ? Sipati picha Mkuu.

    A woman does not offer sex for free. Whether you believe it or not. Just take an interest,and listen carefully to your wife after sex if she doesn't come out with some kind of demand.Unaweza ukadhani ni demand ya kawaida ya nyumbani likini ndivyo walivyo. Sasa ukiniambia habari ya to Use them --exploitatation-- nakushangaa kidogo. Na kama wewe ni demu , ukitaka urafiki na mwanaume lazima utafanya naye mapenzi tu maana unampenda . Mkiachana kwa sababu fulani fulani huwezi kusema ulikuwa unatumiwa maana na wewe ulikuwa unamtumia pia.
     
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    THIS IS SERIOUS I SEE!
    at least umetoa statement AS PER YOUR EXIPERIENCE in profession!sasa labda nilulize,kwanin haya yote yanatokea?is this THE SIGN OF TIMES?
     
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    MANENO MAZITO SANA MKUU!
    BAHATI MBAYA MIMI NI MWANAUME WA MBEGU KAMA WEWE!
    Tusubiri hoja kutoka kwa wanawake
     
  17. WomanOfSubstance

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    Mbona ni rahisi tu kujua Mkuu.
    Miaka ya nyuma watu walikuwa wanaishi maisha simple.... mwanamke akijua yeye kaolewa na anaweza kuachwa saa yoyote na kwa style yoyote.. alichoweza kufanya ni kujitahidi sana kumridhisha mume kwa kila hali ili angalau abaki kwenye ndoa... aliweza kuvumilia hata vitimbi bila kutafuta msaada.Polepole wanaharakati wakaanza kuelimisha watu - wanawake kwa wanaume kuhusu haki za binadamu na haki za kisheria including haki katika ndoa.Baada ya uelewa huo, basi wanawake wakawa hawako tayari kuondolewa kikuku tena wakawa wanakomaa na haki zao hadi mahakamani.... wakifika huko.... haki ikitendeka basi mwanaume anaona amepoteza ule uanaume wake.
    Kwa upande mwingine, watu kama wanaishi nyumba za kupanga, ya nini kung'ang'ania humo ndani kama yamekufika kooni? Basi mwanaume anajifungashia virago vyake na kusonga mbele.
    Haya maelezo ni kwa urahisi sana ( in very simple terms)... tungeweza kujadili zaidi kama muda/fursa ingeruhusu.
     
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    No research No right to speak.Msilete Porojo hapa Kilingeni.
     
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    Mbu JF-Expert Member

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    ...I see!

    ...ndio maana 'dawa' ni kupindua gari na kukoroma kwa nguvu zote! (Joking) :)

    Ukiona hivyo ujue kuna upungufu wa majadiliano, masikilizano na maelewano katika hiyo ndoa. Sitaki na sipendi mke anayesubiria tendo la ndoa ndio aanze kutoa maduku duku yake! ...Ni kuondosha maana kamili ya 'kustareheshana!"
     
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    Allien............asante lakini sijui hii ripoti ni ya enzi gani. ripoti hii ilikuwa sawa enzi ya wazazi wangu lakini this generation wanaume wanapigania haki zao kuremain free and single.................maua ni mengi,
     
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