Njia mahususi ya kuvunja penzi.

[Miriamemmanuel]

Huo ujumbe ni mkali sana anaweza kujihisi ni takataka katika dunia. Mm nakushauri sehemu yenye mapenzi inaonekana. Fanaya mambo asiyo yapenda yeye mwenyewe atakasilika ata amua kususa.

Kumbuka malipo duniani ukimtenda mwenzio hata wewe utalipwa hapa hapa. MAPENZI NI ZAIDI YA MSIBA MAPENZI YANAUMA. Heri kupendwa kuliko kupenda usipopedwa.

 

[cylu]

Panga nae muda kisha umweleze ukweli kuhusu hisia zako juu yake (i.e. humpendi) mpe sababu za hisia hizo kuwa hivyo na pia jaribu kujibu maswali yake yote atakayouliza. Baada ya hayo acha kabisa kuwa na mawasiliano nae, yaani mawasiliano ya aina yoyote. It'll be painful but time will heal na cha muhimu the truth was told- hata kama mgumu vipi kuelewa kuambiwa hupendwi utaelewa tu!

 

[Miriamemmanuel]

Yea, Mwali, that is so famous na sitamshauri ataumie. That phrase has more than one meaning. Kwa mfano, kwa wanawake, “it is not you, it is me simply means “it is you”. Solution hapa ni kuwa honest. She doesn't feel the same way like he feels. Huo ndio ukweli na inabidi amweleze tena mapema. Inabidi awe honest, it will be painful to him but in the long term ata-appreciate vibaya na possibly anam-respect.

Nafikiri ni rahisi kwa mwanamke kumwambia mwanaume kuwa hampendi kuliko mwanaume kumwambia mwanamke hampendi. Kwa wanaume hatu-mind sana, though it may vary from one man to another. Lakini kwa mwanamke kuambiwa openely na mwanaume anayempenda kuwa hampendi kunaweza kumdhuru hata kimwili. Sasa Neiwa kama vile anadhani jamaa atajisikia vibaya sana kama vile yeye (Neiwa) angejisikia. It doesn't work that way. Kumbuka unlike wanawake, wanaume don't attach too much emotions kwenye mapenzi.

So, kama kweli humpendi mwambie straight bila kumumunya maneno hata kama atalia. You need to let him now the truth and tell him you only think of him as a friend and hopefully kama ni mwanaume mwelewa atakuelewa. Tena hiyo friendship iwe ni offer tuu. If he wants to be friends with you sawa, kama hataki sawa. Let him decide that.

Ukweli ni kwamba kama anakupenda you are going to hurt him no matter what. Huwezi kulikwepa hili kwa kutafuta maneno mazuri. Mwambie you care a great deal about him as a friend and you want what is best for him so he doesn’t miss out on a better opportunity with someone else. Kumbuka the more you try to use nice words to please him, the more complicated things can potentially get. Use your body language too to express your view but do not try to be too mean on him. Just be open and express what you feel.

Wakati ukimweleza hayo hakikisha mpo kwenye sehemu ya faragha, maana sometimes nyie wanawake mnapenda kuwa-embarrass wanaume wanaowapenda (lakini nyie hamuwapendi au mmeshawachuna vya kutosha) mbele ya marafiki zenu. Sio fresh. Pia ni bora umwambie uso kwa uso na sio kwenye text message, BBM, facebook message or JF PMs.

Kama akiendelea kung’ang’ania just tell him open that you don't feel for him the way you think he wants you to. If he doesn’t get it then just say plain and simply to him that you are not inclined to love him. And then say Sorry. Nina uhakika hapo atakuacha. Kila mtu anajua kuwa huwezi kumlazimisha mtu akupende.

PS. Usitumie zile kauli kwenye ile thread ya kauli za kejeli za wanawake. Hapo utakuwa unatafuta vita ya Gaddafi na anaweza kukuombea majeshi ya NATO. Ila kama wewe unanipenda mimi, uni-PM haraka sana. I promise you sitakutosa kama unavyotaka kumtosa huyo jamaa. lol.

Hakika unastahili tuzo ya ushauri nasaha. Watu wote wamechangia lkn wewe No 1

 

[MadameX]

Mwambie we need a break kutafakari our relationship and then take really long break ikiwezekana kata mawasiliano, kama anaakili atajuwa kuwa ametemwa.

 

[cylu]

Panga nae muda kisha umweleze ukweli juu ya hisia zako (i.e humpendi) na toa sababu zimekua hivyo kama unazo. Jaribu kumpa muda ili akuulize maswali na pia jibu maswali yake. Baada ya hapo hakikisha huna mawaziliano nae ya aina yoyote ile..Its painful but something that everyone must learn to cope with and move on and besides with time (s)he will be ok but eleza ukweli bila kuficha kitu- hata uwe mgumu vipi kuelewa kuambiwa hupendwi na kwanini utaelewa tu lasivyo ni ujinga.

 

[dav22]

tumia shoka au sururu.

du kweli lazima litavunjika tu hapo

 

[Preta]

Hiyo mbona rahisi sana,mtengenezee mazingira tu akufumanie ukiwa na jibaba la nguvu lililomzidi kila kitu,utaona kama atarudi kwako.

jamani duniani kuna wauwaji....khaaaa.......

 

[Kongosho]

Tena wawuwaji haswaa

wanaweza wakakuchemshia chai ya pitosin

jamani duniani kuna wauwaji....khaaaa.......

 

[TIMING]

Unajua anakupenda ila hata ujitahidi namna gani humpendi tu!

Ni njia gani mahususi ya kuvunja penzi?

Jua kua sio muelewa. anachotaka ndio wape. sio understanding.

Mpe laivu bila chenga

acha kumuharibia na kumpotezea muda kwani hata ukimkubali na hata mkaishia kuoana, hakutakua na penzi na utaishia kuliwa na kila tom, dick and harry

 

[Chauro]

sidhani kama kuna njia mahususi ya kuvunja penzi la mtu anayekupenda kweli ......kupendwa usipopendwa balaa tupu

 

[Ninaweza]

Tena wawuwaji haswaa

wanaweza wakakuchemshia chai ya pitosin

kuindyuzi leba?

 

[Meritta]

Mwambie tu ukweli mapenz hayana kulazimishana

 

[Evelyn Salt]

No way kama feeling hazipo tena hazipo tu hata afanye nini...pole sana,i have been there n i did this:nlimake sure narise misunderstand kila mara, so muda mwingi hatuelewani, nakuwa mbishi, akiomba nakuwa na visingizio vingi n.k n.k ililast more than a mnth na kumtamkia its over siwezi,lastly alielewa akufukuzae si lazma aseme toka n ye mwenyewe akaadmit no love tena, tuka break up.