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Nina wivu nashindwa hata kumeza mate!

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Annina, Jan 7, 2010.

  1. Annina

    Annina JF-Expert Member

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    Wapendwa,
    Nipo kwenye serious mahusiano na kwa mapenzi ya Mungu tunaweza kufunga ndoa. Tatizo nina wivu kupita maelezo, yaani saa zote nahisi kuibiwa...kwa mfano kuna siku nilikuta amempa lift zilipendwa wake na alikuwa amekaa kwenye siti ya mbele ya abiria, niliumia kupitiliza nikaacha kuitumia ile siti, kuanzia siku ile nikawa nakaa siti ya nyuma kama balozi! Baada ya muda akabadili gari -thanx God sasa nakalia siti yangu!

    Nyumba anayoishi nimebadili karibu kila kitu kwani nahisi vina uhusiano na mpenzi wake aliyepita na vinaweza kumkumbusha waliyokuwa wakifanya - siwezi kuvumilia, nimembadili hata yeye - mavazi, perfume, sehemu za kutembelea nk nk yote hii ni kuhakikisha mimi ndio natawala mawazo yake na si vinginevyo, lengo ni kwamba kila kitu kinachomzunguka kiwe kinamkumbusha mimi! Akisafiri tunakesha kwa PC na simu... kuhakikisha yupo peke yake nitamtaka afanye mambo kadhaa ili nijiridhishe siibiwi... msg zikiingia kwenye simu yake mapigo ya moyo yanabadilika...huwa najitahidi kujizuia kusoma msg hizo lakini asiponiambia nani ametuma na kuniruhusu kusoma naweza kukosa usingizi siku kadhaa!

    Jamani nisaidieni, ni mimi tu au na wengine wako hivi? Nina wasiwasi atachoka, kuna wakati naona namnyima uhuru, najaribu kujizuia lakini nashindwa, nifanyeje?

    Annina
     
  2. Lukolo

    Lukolo JF-Expert Member

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    Mara nyingi wenye wivu mkali hata wao huwa si waaminifu. Na huhisi yale anayomfanyia mwenzake na yeye anafanyiwa hivyohivyo. Jichunguze kwanza mwenendo wako. Or huyo uliyenaye alishakujeruhi na hupendi arudie tena.

    Kama hayo yote hayapo na bado una wivu, basi kuna kazi kubwa. Manake huo sasa ni wa kurithi kama si kuzaliwa nao. Na mbaya zaidi utakayekuwa unaumia kila siku ni wewe na siyo yeye.
     
  3. Annina

    Annina JF-Expert Member

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    Asante Vangi,
    Namshukuru Mungu mimi ni muaminifu kwa asilimia zote. Huyu nilie nae hajawahi kunijeruhi - ila niliwahi kujeruhiwa huko nyuma. Tatizo jingine nawekeza rasilimali zangu zote kwenye mapenzi - siwezi kupenda kwa kiasi au nusunusu kama wengine wanavyofanya, labda hili nalo linachangia.
     
  4. TANMO

    TANMO JF-Expert Member

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    Kwa jinsi ulivyojieleza inaonesha wazi unalitambua tatizo na hata nini cha kufanya unajua pia. Cha muhimu jitahidi usimjengee mawazo ya kutokujisikia huru anapokuwa na wewe manake hii hali inaboa na itamfanya akuchoke mapema.
     
  5. Eqlypz

    Eqlypz JF-Expert Member

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    Mapenzi bila wivu hayaendi lakini huu wako umezidi sasa, noma tupu!!
     
  6. m

    madule Senior Member

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    Pole sana, you are focusing so much in what may not be existing. chagua tuu kumuwazia yaliyomema mwenzio. maana kila unaloliwazia huwa ndilo linatokea hivo ukimuwazia kuwa anamahusiano ina maana kwa kufanya hivo utafanya awe na mahusiano na ww ndiye utakuwa umeleta hiyo hali.Jipe raha nayo itawatawala wote na mwenzio. hiyo halia ya kuumia moyoni na kujikaza kujifanya upo ok haimaanishi kuwa hatambui hiyo hali, maana fikra zina mawimbi na mawimbi husafiri bilA KINGO YOYOTE NA HIVO HISIA ZAKO KUWA HUPO NA AMANI ZINAFIKA KTK FIKRA ZAKE, na hapo ndio mwanzo wa kuhalibu. what you feel is much important than what you think!
     
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    Mtoto wa Kishua JF-Expert Member

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    Kama ni una wivu basi achana ma mchezo wa mapenzi, kwani jinsi mtakavyo funga ndoa ndio mtakavyo tua ule mzigo wa kuact kwamba nyie ni wazuri kwa kila kitu, sasa hapo ndipo uhalisia hujitokesa na hali yakuzoeana inapo ibauka na kusababisha kuona unaibiwa zaidi na zaidi.

    Kifupi kama unaingia kwnye mapenzi na ndoa jaribu kupunguza wivu la sivyo ndoa na penzi itakua ni hell
     
  8. shejele

    shejele Senior Member

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    Mwana FA alishawahi kuimba hivi "unafanya nijitambueee dunia niijueee, naamini unaniamini na we amini naamini"
    ukiachilia mbali wivu wako huo uliopitiliza lakini pia inaonekana humuamini mwenzako. Jifunze kumuamini utafurahia maisha.
     
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    Jasusi JF-Expert Member

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    Wivu ni kama ugonjwa vile. Kama hajakupa sababu ya kutomuamini, basi omba Mungu akusaidie upate nguvu za kumwamini. Lakini kwanza lazima ujiamini mwenyewe. Na ukishajiamini na kujua na kuamini kuwa anakupenda basi utapata nguvu za kuushinda wivu wako.
     
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    Oxlade-Chamberlain JF-Expert Member

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    angalia sana huo wivu wa haina hio sio mzuri hata kwa afya yako.kama unaona humuamini mpenzi wako basi subiri kwanza mpaka mda muafaka ukifika na unajiona utaweza kumudu ndoa au uhusiano wa karibu wa kimapenzi ndio uanze la sivyo unaweza kufanya maamuzi ya ajabu.
     
  11. Abdulhalim

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    Control freak
     
  12. M

    Mbunge wa CCM JF-Expert Member

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    tatizo lako tayari unalikjua, ni mwanzo mzuri.

    kwa kiasi kikubwa umeathirika na yaliyokukuta kabla hujakutana na huyu wa sasa. unapaswa kupuuza historia hiyo ya kutendwa na kuamini uwa yalipita na hayajirudii.

    pia kumbuka mwanadamu halindwi. rejea maandiko yasemayo "Bwana asipoulinda mji, waulindao wanakesha bure" kama kweli unampenda muondolee usumbufu uletwao na wivu na zidisha upendo hasa nyumbani ili apaone mahali pazuri pa kuishi.

    pia nasauri kama hakuna sababu ya msingi ya nyie kutofunga ndoa kwa wakati huu, basi fungeni na mzae mara moja kama sehemu ya jibu la tatizo lako. watoto husaidia kupunguza wivu na kuongeza imani baina ya wanandoa.
     
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    PELE JF-Expert Member

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    Annina utakufa siku si zako ukiendekeza wivu kiasi hicho. Kumchunga binadamu si rahisi kabisa. Akitaka kufanya madudu yake atayafanya tu hata kama utajitahidi kumbadili kwa kiasi gani. Kama humuamini kutokana na matendo yake ni bora kuingia mitini mapema kabisa.

    Na hiyo ya kumpa lift zilipendwa wake ni NO NO NO, nashangaa uliruhusu kitu kama hicho. Zilipendwa zinabaki zilipendwa mambo ya kupeana lift hayaruhusiwi kabisa au wanaweza kabisa kukumbushia enzi zao.
     
  14. Kaizer

    Kaizer JF-Expert Member

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    hapa utakufa siku si zako! ohoo

    hivi ukaa kwenye siti ya mbele ndo aliondoka nayo? si ilibaki? halafu tabia ya kususa namna hiyo si nzuri, sijui kama ulikuwa unampa maelezo gani kwa nini huketi tena mbele? usipoangalia atamrudia zilipendwa wake....ohooo

    Mbona unajidanganya ivo Annina? huwezi kumbadilisha mtu ki ivyo...uliza uambiwe


    hhehehe jamani, kama ugonjwa wa moyo unautafuta mwenyewe...lakini nashindwa kuamini kama hii ni kweli! yeye anasoma za kwako?

    Mi nahisi ni wewe tu, cha kufanya acha mara moja huo utaratibu wako..mwanaume hachungwi ivo kawaulize mabinti wa kitanga waliofundwa.....hiyo 'command and control' haitakufikisha popote na usitarajie ndoa hapo....mwachie uhuru wake kama anavokuachia wa kwako!
     
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    kimatire JF-Expert Member

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    Nakiri kukuelewa kwa kina kwa jinsi ya tabia yako ya kupenda sana na kuwekeza kwenye mapenzi kwa sana.Sasa ndugu yangu+ kabla mwisho mbaya haujakufika fanya mambo muhimu yafuatayo;

    1.Chagua kuishi au kufa
    2.Kama umechagua kuishi basi usielekeze akili yako kwenye kitu mapenzi
    3.Kama umechagua kufa hakikisha siku anakuacha au unamkuta na mwanaume mwingine kuwe na shahidi wa kutoa maelezo ya kifo chako
    4.Zingatia na.2 na 3 hapo juu
    5.Unahitaji maombi na sala ya toba
    6.Ahirisha kufunga pingu za maisha na huyo mdau hadi hayo hapo juu yametimizwa.
    7.Usisubiri kuambiwa sasa umekata roho bali ukisikia dalili hizi ujue umeondoka duniani;
    i) Moyo kwenda kasi na kukosa usingizi
    ii)Kifua kubana na pumzi kupungua
    iii)Kupiga miayo na kusikia kiu
    iv)Kwenda haja kubwa mara kwa mara nk
     
  16. FirstLady1

    FirstLady1 JF-Expert Member

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    eeeh madame mbona wivu wako umepitiliza mipaka ...mie nina wivu ila wako ni too much unaweza kufa hivi hivi tunaangalia

    amini unapendwa lakini hayo mengineyo ukiyafatilia utashindwa kuingia kwenye hiyo ndoa
     
  17. Teamo

    Teamo JF-Expert Member

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    kwani wewe zilipendwa wako umemsahau maoja kwa moja?
     
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    FirstLady1 JF-Expert Member

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    hapo kwenye green kweli jamaa anaweza kuona ameruka mkojo akakanyaga mavi ni bora arudi aliko toka kuna pumziko la milele
     
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    Teamo JF-Expert Member

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    unajua hutu tubinti tudogo tudogo tunatoangalia tamthiliya na nini TUNASUMBUA SANA HUTU!

    mimi mwanamke wa kunibana hivyo atanipoteza so soon
     
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    FirstLady1 JF-Expert Member

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    Ni akili ya mtu Geoff lakini ukiwa mwizi na wewe siku zote unawaza kuibiwa tu ..

     
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