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Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by kings09, Dec 1, 2010.

  1. k

    kings09 Member

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    Habari wana JF,
    Mimi ni member wa JF (home of great thinker) kwa muda kidogo, japo kuwa sijawahi kupost article yeyote.

    Leo nimekuja jamvini kwa mana JF ili kuomba ushauri amabo nahisi utanisaidia ktk kupata suluhu hiki kitiu kinacho nitatiza.

    Kisa chenyewe,
    Mimi ni Baba, nina mke na watoto 3, kama ilivyo kwa african family (extended) ninaishi na ndugu vilevile.

    Kati ya ndugu ninao ishi nao, ni mtoto wa dada yangu, ambae baada ya kumaliza std 7 nilimtoa kijijini na kumleta mjini, na nikaendelea kumsomesha sec school naakamaliza F4 mwaka juzi 2009.

    Kwa sababu alikuwa na utashi na anapenda kusomea hotels mgt, nilimtafutia shule earlier this year nakaanza kusoma kozi ya miezi 18.

    Kinachonitatiza amesha soma miezi 6 tu tayari ana uja uzito.Nikajaribu kumbana na kumuuliza anayehusika na hali hio ili awajibike, lakini huyu hataki kumtaja. Nikaona hebu nijaribu kumtisha, nimemfukuza nyumbani ili labda amtaje anayejusika, lakini huyu binti hataki kumtaja na tayari ameshaondoka nyumabani sijui anakoishi kwa sasa. Wazazi wake bado sijawajulisha.

    Sasa naomba ushauri kwenu wana JF nifanyaje ili ni nusuru maisha yake??
     
  2. afrodenzi

    afrodenzi Platinum Member

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    Duuuhh muheshimiwa kwanza pole kabisa...
    kwa mahangaiko yote uliyopitia wewe na familia yako...
    kwa kumsomesha na kumtunza mpaka sasa...

    kwa mawazo yangu binafsi naona ni bora umwombe arudi nyumbani...
    najua bado unahasira naye ...
    huwezi kuzima moto kwa moto..
    wewe unahasira na yeye ana ogopa..
    mimi naona ukimrudisha nyumbani halafu ongea naye taratibu usimgombeze.. ( najua itakuwa ngumu lakini jaribu)
    mwambie akwambie tu hamna shida na hutamfanya kitu chochote..
    au muombe mkeo aongee naye... taratibu...
     
  3. hashycool

    hashycool JF-Expert Member

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    Ana umri gani huyo? Kama above 21 osha mikono shukuru kutua mzigo
     
  4. cheusimangala

    cheusimangala JF-Expert Member

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    mmh kwa kweli inasikitisha,
    pole sana ndugu yangu sbb uliyopanda siyo unayovuna lkn ndio dunia na vidogo vyetu vya leo vina matatizo sana.
    Ni muhimu umtafute arudi nyumbani,na wala usimgombeze na kumpa vitisho zaidi ili asije akafanya maamuzi yakutusikitisha baadae,wanawake wakiwa ktk hali hiyo wanaweza kufanya chochote,bado ni wako huyo,mtoto akinyea mkono huwezi kuukata,mtafute arudi home nakusihi inatia shaka kutojua yuko wapi na hali yake hiyo.
    Akisharudi nyumbani mwache atulie kidogo halafu utafute mwanamke wanayeelewana aongee naye labda anaweza kumtaja baba,ila hata baba akitajwa usishangae bado mzigo ukawa wako(kama hutaamua kumrudisha village) sbb usikute huyo mwenye mzigo hana nyuma wala mbele.
    kaazi kweli kweli.
     
  5. Anfaal

    Anfaal JF-Expert Member

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    Huyo baba hata akitajwa atamsaidia nini sasa? Cha msingi ni kuona ni ajali imeshatokea na kufanya tathmini upya juu ya seriousness ya huyo binti. Kama ni bahati mbaya then apewe chance na kama huyo bwana yupo serious pia aeleweke. Wengi wetu hufanya makosa na tungekuwa tunaadhibiwa kwa namna hiyo sina hakika leo hii tungekuwa wapi. Ni vyema kumpa nafasi tena.
     
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    Mtazamaji JF-Expert Member

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    Mimi naonakama alivyoshauri mdau 1ja wewe cha kufanya ni kupelelza huko alikokuwa anasoma ujue rafiki yake watakuwa wanajua yuko wapi .

    Lakini usihangike kumrudisha kwa nguvu. Ni kama wewe utakuwa unamuomba msamaha. Akijisikia kurudi au kutaka kuonana na wewe atatuma watu au atampa taarifa hata mkeo kama walikuwa wanapatana.

    Na mtu mzuri wa kuweza kuongea nye na kupata taarifa sahihi akipatikana ni mwanamke.So involve your wife to participate more kuliko wewe.
     
  7. Fab

    Fab JF-Expert Member

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    basi ukute kameenda kwa huyo mshkaji wake...!:redfaces:
    mwache hata usimfatilie,yakimshinda huko aliko atarudi...
    cha kufanya,waaambie wazazi wake kuwa binti yao ametoroka na ujauzito na hujui alipo...huku ukitafuta means za kuestablish alipo kwa kutumia marafiki zake!

    pole sana..
     
  8. GFM

    GFM JF-Expert Member

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    Du hizi issue zipo kila kona .................hapo ndugu yangu wasiliana na wazazi kwanza
    pili nenda chuoni kwa principal upate marafiki zake wakusaidie maana wanajua alipo.
    Usijekuta ni mwalimu maana na walimu wa siku hizi sio wa enzi zetu..........all in all
    huyu ameshakuwa binti mkubwa sasa huna cha kumfanya ni kumsaidia tu kwa kuhakikisha
    anamaliza shule............itabidi mama yake/dada yako akalee mjukuu ili aweze kumaliza
    shule. Sometimes hii ndio inakuwaga wake up call kwa mabinti........... take it easy
     
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    GFM JF-Expert Member

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    That's why I am in love ..............always!
     
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    MUSINGA JF-Expert Member

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    mtu mzima huyo kaka,hizi tabia za kufuga watu wazima majumbani na kuwaita watoto tutaacha lini jamani!!!
     
  11. afrodenzi

    afrodenzi Platinum Member

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    hahahahhah lol...
    yes sweety u can just say it.....
    i want get mad......
    hahahah lol
     
  12. k

    kings09 Member

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    She is exactly 21 yrs now!
     
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    Pearl JF-Expert Member

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    Ndugu lawama kwawkeli!yani hata aibu hana jamani kumsaidia kote huko kha!pole sana kwakweli katafute marafiki zake ili ujue yuko wapi then ukae kikao na wazazi wake mjadili.Waswahili husema mtoto wako,wa mwenzio mkubwa mwenzio
     
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    Nyamayao JF-Expert Member

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    pole sana kaka, hebu washirikishe na wazazi wake mapema mshirikiane kimawazo pia, acjekupata tatizo huko aliko na wazazi wanajua yupo kwako.
     
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    Gaijin JF-Expert Member

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    Huyo binti hana simu?

    Kama anayo muombe mkeo aseme nae sio kumuomba arudi nyumbani bali walau aseme yuko wapi ili wazazi wake kijijini wapate taarifa.

    Badala ya wewe kumsemesha sana, waache wazazi wake wazungumze nae, japo kwa watoto wa siku hizi atajaza uongo tele wa kusema unamuonea.

    Ukubwa jalala, kubali tu kuwa mpole kwenye hili uache uone kitakacho endelea
     
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    kings09 Member

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    Ahsante hapo kwenye red hata mimi ndicho ninacho hisi, au huenda huyu mtoto hana kumbukumbu ya kwamba nani mwenyewe hasa mweny huo mzigo.

    1. Kwa sbb mara ya kwanza tulipo mwuliza, alitujibu huyo bwana yupo, ana kazi nzuri, ana mpango wa kuja kujitambulisha.
    2. Mara ya pili tulipo muuliza, akatujibu mtu mwingine kijana waliekuwa waisoma nae o'level.
    3. I am completely confused!!
     
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    kings09 Member

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    Thanks! NOTED
     
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    Eng. Smasher JF-Expert Member

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    Pole sana kaka kwa yaliyokukuta.
    Mimi ilitokea kwa causin wangu, hakusema hadi anajifungua ndo tumekuja kumjua baba wa mtoto hivi karibuni.
    Mtafute huyo binti mrudishe kwa wazazi wake coz akipata tatizo lawama zote haijalishi alipewa mimba ati.
    Ndugu wana lawama sana
     
  19. ghumpi

    ghumpi Senior Member

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    Mkuu nenda naye taratibu. Si unajua manbo ya kudangenyika?? Pia akupe next plan kama amalize training au arudi kwa wazazi. Umefanya vyea kurosha, pole sana
     
  20. hashycool

    hashycool JF-Expert Member

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    kama bado hujui alipo file a police report on a missing person...huwezi fahamu nini kibaya kitamtokea na kipindi kikitokea you ll be accountable na ukisema alitoweka nyumbani swali litakalofuata ni did you report?
     
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