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mtoto kicheche, anafeli na muhuni. shule gani itamfaa?

Discussion in 'Jukwaa la Elimu (Education Forum)' started by Somoe, Nov 27, 2010.

  1. Somoe

    Somoe JF-Expert Member

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    Hi, jamani, naombeni msaada wenu wa mawazo. Nina somesha mtoto wa dada angu, shule ya secondary, mama yake alisha fariki na baba ake katiwa ndani, kafungwa kiufupi. Huyu mtoto sasa amenichanga. Jana mama kanipigia sim na kaniambia huyu mtoto anarudi home saa sita za usiku, kila siku sasa. Na anamtukana bibi yake na kugombana nae, hawaelewani. Wiki iliopita kuna kijana alikuja na kisu kwa mama na kumulizia huyu mtoto na kudai anataka kupiga mapanga huyo mtoto akimuona. Out out kaendekeza, masomo anafeli na anamarafiki wasio eleweka, mama kashamshinda. Sasa mie nataka aende kusoma nje ya dar, akienda kijijini labda huko atatulia na atasoma vizuri. Lakini sasa mie sijui shule nzuri huko mikoani, je kuna mtu yeyote ambae atanisaidia kunielekeza shule mzuri jamani, asanteni maana nimechanganyikiwa hata sijui la kufanya.
     
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    M-bongotz JF-Expert Member

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    Kama ni wa kike kuna shule nzuri sana ipo mitaa ya kinondoni makaburini,nyingine zipo Manzese kwa mfuga mbwa,kws macheni na mitaa ya buguruni hizi zote zinatoa kozi ya ukahaba.
     
  3. MTWA

    MTWA JF-Expert Member

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    Mpeleke Boarding ya Geti kali na mkabidhi kwa mwalimu amchape kama atakavyo,
     
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    seniorita JF-Expert Member

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    Pole, jaribu kuongea naye na kumshauri may be anafanya hivyo kwa sababu ya yaliyowapata wazazi wake; give her second chance kwa upendo na upole, labda you may win her back. Otherwise, she will have to learn a hard way
     
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    Mtazamaji JF-Expert Member

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    Hapo kuna sex knowledge gap. Miaka hii teens wana kuwa exposed na ambo mengi lakini watu wa ku waguide nao wanakuwa kimya kwa kigezo cha maaadili
    Kwa hiyo siyo kwamba ni kichehe ni kwamba
    - yuko sexually active na ana marafiki wasiokuwa wazuri au amabo na wenywewe wako sexually active
    - Hakuna mtu mzazi au ndugu wa kuwapa taarifa sahihi za mabadiliko yanayoendana na miili yo na jinsi ya kuyakabili

    Kumpeleka kijijini au shule ya mbali haitasaidia. kwanz muelimishe au mpeleke kwa shangazi yake likizo au kwa mama yake mdogo au mkubwa wampe somo.
     
  6. Lukolo

    Lukolo JF-Expert Member

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    Pole mkuu. Naijua sana adha ya kuwa na mtoto wa aina hiyo. Jaribu kutafuta shule za boarding za watoto wa kike. More likely kutakuwa na monitoring nzuri. Kama ukibahatisha ya private nafikiri ndo itakuwa nzuri zaidi kwake. Sina uhakika shule gani inaweza kumfaa kwa sasa, but ushauri wangu ni kwamba fikiria juu ya shule ya boarding kokote Tanzania.
     
  7. Lukolo

    Lukolo JF-Expert Member

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    Aisee!!! :hungry:
     
  8. Deodat

    Deodat JF-Expert Member

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    Mmmh! amchape na nini mkuu, specify pls, manake ukimwambia mwl wa kiume amchape atakavyo anaweza kuelewa tofauti akaishia kumchapa "with a living stick!"
     
  9. Mtazamaji

    Mtazamaji JF-Expert Member

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    Msisahau boarding nyigine ndo soruce ya Ushoga na Usagaji. Dawa ni kuwafudisha watoto hasa wa kike kujitambua kabla haijawa too late.
     
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    mpeleke kwenye maombi yatasaidia
     
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    mshemwa steven Member

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    da kuna shule nzuri sana kule mby ikiwemo swilla sec school iliyopo mbalizi mby,kwa huyo mtoto itamfaa sana.bt mwambie kuwa hiyo ni last chance akichezea ndo basi nadhani atakuelewa.lakini pia ndio watoto wenye umri kati ya miaka(13-19) wanapenda ngono sana bt pia hata ww unamakosa kwanini umpeleke akae kwa bibi yake na si ww? bibi umri umekwenda sana so jaribu kukaa nae huyo binti umeleze hali halisi ya dunia ya sasa kwani pia inawezekana kabisa hujawahi kumweleza mkiwa mmetuli kwahiyo zingatia hilo
     
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    mpelekee boarding school ambayo haiko mjini kama na huko akishindwa mpe ruhusa aende Q-bar na mitaa ya kinondoni jirani na makaburini kiu yake iishe
     
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    Paul S.S Verified User

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    Mkuu nimewahi kupata ona kesi kama yako, ilifikia stage swala la kuongeanae ni kama kumpigia mbuzi gitaa, swala zima liliisha baada ya kumpeleka lwandai sec school huko milimani Tanga. Nishule ya kanisa la kkkt ina walimu wataalamu wanao deal na situation kama hizo,
    kama ameshindikana kabisa check na hiyo shule kwani si kila boarding ni nzuri kwa watoto
     
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    Easymutant JF-Expert Member

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    :redfaces:
    Sijaifurahia ushauri wako:redfaces:
     
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    Ndy JF ya siku hizi hiyo!!! Inabeba watu wa aina mbalimbali! Utakuta huyo ni mwanafunzi!
     
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    Kule MBEYA kuna shule ya watoto watukukutu! Huko aikienda atanyooka mwenyewe
     
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    Amoeba JF-Expert Member

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    Ndugu somoe!
    Kwanza hiyo heading ya thread yako inanipa picha ya jinsi gani ndugu (na wazazi) wanavyoweza kuchangia katika Tabia ya mtoto! Sijajua background ya wazazi, wewe nadhani utakuwa unaijua vizuri. Lakn kwa ujumla mnaonekana ni watu wa kukwepa majukumu na kulaumu (mtoto wa dada yako ni wako-mimi pia nimelelewa na mjomba). Hauwezi kumwita mwanao MALAYA, KICHECHE, MHUNI na majina mengine yasiyofaa, kama nawe si MHUNI au FATAKI flani (Samahani kama nitakuudhi-nia ni kujenga)!

    Picha ya harakaharaka tu inaonesha kuwa binti yenu keshapotea, na ninyi ndy haswaa mmechangia upotevu huo. Na wewe unaonesha dhahiri kuwa "AMEKUSHINDA" au unajivua majukumu uliyoachiwa na dada yako. Napenda nikufahamishe tu kuwa, kumsukumia mtu mwingine (mwalimu) jukumu lako si sulluhisho la tatizo, na mtoto ataonakama umemkomoa-hvyo usishangae kuibuka matatizo makubwa zaidi! Unachotakiwa kufanya basi ni kum-befriend na kuongea naye ili kujua matatizo yake, hili si jambo la siku moja na wala si jambo la kumkalipia! Mfanyie councelling, ukishahakikisha amerelax ndy unaweza kumbadilishia mazingira kwa kumpeleka shule yenye maadili na waalimu wenye upendo! amini nakwambia-ATABADILIKA NA atakushukuru BAADAYE!

    Nimeshaona mfano kwa mmoja, mtoto aliacha shule Form Two, akawa hashikiki, akazaa na kuolewa kisha kuachika mala kadhaa! Wazazi wale wakampiga marukuku kukanyaga nyumbani kwao, jirani yao mmoja akamhurumia na kumchukua, akaishi naye mwaka mzima kwa uvumilivu na upendo mkubwa (Mungu ambariki yule mama na familia yake), binti akabadirika taratibu, akajiunga na elimu ya watu wazima, hv navyoandika hapa huyo binti ni "MWALIMU" anajitegemea na analea mtoto wake kwa furaha, akikusimulia mwenyewe Utalia.

    Tupendane jaman!
     
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    ChiefmTz JF-Expert Member

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    Yuko gvt au private na yuko kidato gani
     
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    Pole sana ndugu, sikushauri umpeleke boarding school hata kidogo. Kama mtoto amekushinda wewe mwenzio atamuweza? Anaweza kwenda kuibuka na tabia mpya za ajabu zaidi. Inawezekana hayo anayoyafanya kwa sasa ni madogo kutokana na uwepo wenu wa karibu. Vipi kama mtakuwa mbali nae?

    Nakushauri umtulize nyumbani kwa mwaka mzima huku ukimpa ushauri, ukimwonesha upendo na kuiset akili yake kishuleshule, mpe mahitaji yake ya muhimu kama binti ila usimpe uhuru wa kuzurula pia umpangie kazi za kufanya hapo home.

    mnunulie vitabu vile vya kisaikolojia vinavyoelezea namna ya kufanikiwa katika maisha au hata novels ili mradi umjengee tabia ya kujisomea katika kipindi hicho cha mapumziko.

    Mpe uhuru wa kuchagua shule anayotaka kusoma ila iwe ya karibu ili uweze kuona maendeleo yake kila siku.
     
  20. Mkeshahoi

    Mkeshahoi JF-Expert Member

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    Ukipga....utaua au utampa kilema ..... mweke chini muulize anataka nini...kuolewa...kusoma.... au kufanya kitu gani... msaidie kwa hilo..!!
     
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