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Moving past a breakup is about you, not your ex

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Masikini_Jeuri, Nov 4, 2011.

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    Masikini_Jeuri JF-Expert Member

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    [h=6]There's no question that breakups can be painful, and that it's difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain.

    In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.
    Sometimes the relations...hip you need to rescue is the one with yourself.

    Don't start thinking about being friends right away — if ever. You have to be your own friend first.

    Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.

    Define your real intentions. Are you trying to move past the breakup, or are you hoping to get back with your ex? You won't move on until you've accepted that the relationship is over.

    Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like "nightmare," "terrible," and "horrible," you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do.

    Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.

    Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.

    Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing.

    [/h][h=6] Moving past a breakup is about you, not your ex![/h] [h=6]
    Love u all.
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  2. Vene

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    Thank you so very much! This came just on time!!!
     
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    Thanks mkuu.
     
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    Najisikia faraja kushare nanyi............Mungu awabariki!
     
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    [h=6]God can repair your broken spirit; He is your Master Healer. Really don't appear to your wife or husband to recover you, because they cannot fix your heart. If you go through God's Phrase, you are going to see that God can take individuals that are wounded and damaged and He restores them and utilizes them in great ways. As long as you have faith in Him you will be entirely healed. That is 1 of God's guarantees. God promises to preserve people who have broken spirits and renew them. Hold the promise shut to your heart and imagine that God is healing you.[/h]
     
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    Vene nakumbuka you said you need to find new friends, na hii comment yako hapa naona ni kama unapitia wakati mgumu kidogo... if you need to talk about it, please feel free to PM me.
     
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    Taabu zaidi ni pale unapoendelea kuumia wewe wakati mwenzako akiwa anaendelea na masiha kama hakuna lililotokea....

    Kwa kweli this is useful advice
     
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    Ndio maana nikaweka hii kitu tujifunze kuondokana na hilo nililopigia mstari.................we are the masters of our own happiness!
     
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