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Ladies, are we the cause of our husbands cheating?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Salma osman, Oct 28, 2011.

  1. Salma osman

    Salma osman Senior Member

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    Am asking this coz most of the time if a husband cheats he will blame his wife.

    He will say that his wife shouts at him even a small mistake or sometimes he will say that his wife doesn't care the way she use to care when they first met.

    So, is true?? And if it is true what are we suppose to do to make our marriage life to be good and to avoid blame???
     
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    Nehondo JF-Expert Member

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    human beings always look for somebody else to blame for their mistakes
     
  3. MwanajamiiOne

    MwanajamiiOne Platinum Member

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    No I have never been, am not and never will be.
     
  4. sweetlady

    sweetlady JF-Expert Member

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    Sio kweli!
     
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    daughter JF-Expert Member

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    yaani mtu anaona matope anayafuata akisha kanyaga akateleza aje aseme wewe ulimsukuma?
     
  6. Salma osman

    Salma osman Senior Member

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    u mean sio ukweli?
     
  7. Salma osman

    Salma osman Senior Member

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    yah thats happen
     
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    Freema Agyeman JF-Expert Member

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    Kati ya mtoto na mume unachagua ku-care zaidi nani?

    Imefika wakati wanaume wajue kuwa kibaiolojia wanawake wanacare zaidi offspring kuliko mates. Na bila hii basi dunia haitakuwa na kizazi bora kiafya na kimaadili (especially hadi kwa umri wa kupevuka ambapo tunadhani kuwa watoto wanaweza kusimama wenyewe).

    Wanaume acheni kulia lia (and be responsible kwa mistakes zenu - hujaoa ili kuwa taken care of bali kujenga na kuendeleza familia) - honeymoon haiendelei milele. Wanawake timizeni wajibu wenu kwa familia, akicheat mumeo it is his problem and not yours.
     
  9. Meritta

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    wanaume kuamua kucheat ni tabia tu na maamuzi ya mtu mwenyewe maana wapo wanawake wanaangaika na waume zao mpaka raha lakin bado mijanaume ipo bize tu nyumba ndogo
     
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    Mamzalendo JF-Expert Member

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    Hamna wengine ni tabia zao 2,kuna wengne ukiwauliza mke wako ana tatizo gani kwa nini unataka kumcheat anasema hana tatizo nimekupenda 2,ukimuuliza upo tayari kumuacha uwe na mimi 2 anasema hapana,sa huyu si tabia yake 2?wengne pombe ndio tatizo?wengine eti wanategwa na wadada wanaowapenda?kuna mwingne anacheat lakini anajua nimpendae ni mke wangu 2 sa huyu umuweke kundi gani kama si tamaa,men are complicated,wengine eti ni kujionyesha wao eti ni wanaume,ngoja wale wanaume wanaocheat waje hapa?ila wengne kweli wanawake ni wajeuri ila wachache
     
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    Do you cheat when he makes mistakes? we should stop blaming ourselves for their mistakes!
     
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    Sio kweli ni udhaifu wa huyo mwanaume mwenyew.Kuna watu wanapata care zote lakini bado atatafuta hizo nyumba ndogo.
     
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    Khaaa!!! (am directing it at the fact kua you are now a moderator....lol)
     
  14. BADILI TABIA

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    tamaa zako umlaumu mkeo? Ebo!
     
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    Sometimes it is true but not all the times, excuses are there to be used.
     
  16. Roulette

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    We jibu swali bwana, acha kuchakachua thread. this is a serious question! lol
     
  17. The Boss

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    lol.................
     
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    Status yako still has me on hooks.... Sorry alter will come back to the topic later!! lol
     
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    mzabzab JF-Expert Member

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    aibu!!!
    wen it coes to cheating many a various facctors play a role and the number one is the right selection of a mate
    unajua marriage is a partnership na mie napenda kui-compare na football team where there is the manager and the players...this is a partnership na ili timu iweze kuwa champion lazima uwe na kocha mzuri na wachezaji wazuri both interms of talent and character. so the recruitment of both is paramount.....that said pia ili ndoa iwe successful ni lazima uchagu mke wenye sifa za mke wena na mume wenye sifa nzuri.

    sasa the number one spot to start ni kwenye record ya huyo partner who is going to be future husband....je nimpenda wanawake? je alishakuwaga na various relationships huko nyuma na ziliishje....get to know the character of the person na pia usichukulie maneno yake tuu. wachache wanawza kuwa wakweli kuhusu their faults.

    second coause ni circumstances....na hapa ya kwanza kabisa ni lond distance relationships au mke/mue kwenda masomoni.....lazima ukubali kuwa mwenzi wako ni binadamu na pia anatamaa...sasa kwa kuwa mbali unajenga azingira ya wenzi wako kuwa katika vishawishi na mwishi wa siku we need tender loving care na kwa sababu haupo basi atachukuwa huyu anayeonyesha kucare wakati wewe upo far away!!
     
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    Tata JF-Expert Member

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    I see!!! So that's how you guys reason? Veeeeeeery interesting.
     
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