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LADIES: 7 Things You Shouldn't Do after a Breakup

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Invisible, May 17, 2011.

  1. Invisible

    Invisible Admin Staff Member

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    By Dr. Phoenyx Austin

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    1. Facebook Stalk

    Facebook has truly taken ex-stalking to a whole new level. And while I understand the temptation to peek at an ex’s profile from time to time, I still don’t think it’s very healthy to keep up with what an ex is doing. If you’re truly focused on moving on, then you shouldn’t care what they’re doing on Facebook. After a breakup, all your energy should be focused on you- not what your ex is doing on Facebook or in real life.


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    2. Keep Contact

    Ok, this isn’t an absolute no-no. Sometimes women ask questions like: Should I call my ex for Christmas or his birthday? And here are my thoughts when it comes to contacting exes: If an ex was respectful during the relationship, then I think maintaining contact with them is ok. But if they weren’t completely respectful of you during the relationship, then I advise completely severing ties. That’s how I handle things. There are exes I still talk to, and exes that get absolutely no acknowledgement. My time is valuable. And I don’t contact exes that proved themselves unworthy of my time.


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    3. Beg them to come back

    Begging an ex to come back is NEVER a good look. Period.

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    4. Engage in Ex-Sex

    In the long term, continuing to sleep with an ex isn’t a good idea. Why? Some people believe that allowing your ex to get “no strings attached” sex will ultimately make you look bad in his eyes. But I think that continuing to sleep with an ex is ultimately just a waste of your valuable time. Basically, the time you’re laid up with him is time that you could be out living your life and dating other guys. And all the time you‘re wasting having limited, meaningless sex with your ex, is actually time that you could be using to establish a great relationship with a man who will want to make love to you for a lifetime.

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    5. Get Violent

    I know “get back” is tempting. But don’t become so consumed with anger, that you get physical or violent. Don’t do things like threaten him or damage his property. In the heat of the moment, it may be tempting to hit him, or put your foot through his big screen tv or key his car- but it’s not worth it. Now if you actually bought him that tv or car, that’s another story [​IMG] But still, it’s wise to get “get back” in other ways besides violence. Violence just makes you vulnerable to other means of attack and even legal action.


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    6. Lose Faith

    While it’s ok to give yourself a brief pity party after a breakup, it’s important not to lose faith. No matter how you’re feeling, you need to continue living your life and finding joy in your existence. Exercise mind over matter, and act as if. What do I mean by act as if? I mean, act as if you’re happy. Everyday find a reason, any reason to smile. Tell yourself on a daily basis that everything will be ok. And if you continually tell yourself something, you will start to believe it. The mind is very powerful, and you can make your thoughts reality.


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    7. Become hateful

    Being bitter and hateful after a breakup is never a good look. It’s poisonous and just makes the healing process more difficult. Sure, it’s normal to be upset. But don’t let your anger push you into embitterment or hatefulness. Being hateful just means you aren’t over things. And interestingly enough, most people actually think the opposite of love is hate. So they think that hating their ex, means they’ve accomplished something. But that’s not true. Because, the opposite of love is actually indifference- not hate. It takes just as much energy to hate someone as it takes to love someone- but it doesn’t take any energy to not care about someone.

     
  2. Gaijin

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    This video is kinda funny ....:)
     
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    number moja hapooo...ngumu kutoifanya.....:pound::pound:
     
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    Wanawake msifanye mchezo na midume, itakula kwenu na kuwaumiza.
     
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    wanaume msifanye mchezo na wanaweke, itakula kwenu na kuwaumiza!
     
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    hiy no. 3 zamani nlikuwa nikiifanya sana.............maskini mie
     
  7. Gaga

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    Duh let me keep this, may be for future use....

    Being bitter and hateful after a breakup is never a good look


    hii watu wengi tunachemshaga hapo tu
     
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    Hii ni ya Ladies....
    My advise is - never break up with your Lord
     
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    poleee, futa machozi.
    ucjali mwaya sahau ya nyuma haya ni mapya.
     
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    hahahhaah nishanyamanza ila machozi yanatoka tu sijui najidanganya?
     
  11. Pearl

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    Mmmmh Invisible!y ladies only while there Men pia doing same thing? All in all nimeipenda and for sure WILL NEVER DO THOSE THINGS.
     
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    No. 5 inanikumbusha vituko vya Wema Sepetu na wapenzi wake. Kama hajakutusi basi anakuvunjia vioo vya gari lako.

    Hili somo kalileta ndugu Invisible kuelimisha ladies kwa sababu wengi wao ndio hupata tabu zaidi mahusiano yanapovunjika kuliko men.

    Msipuuzie akina dada
     
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    Hiyo namba tatu ukiifanya umekwisha sithubutu
     
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    Mzungu wa nne duhh ulimtesa mwenzio
     
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    kati ya wadada wenye bahati huyu ni mmoja wao, sidhani kama mpaka sasa kavunjwa moyo na mwanaume yeyote yule, ye anatumia anaanza akikuchoka utajijua mwenyewe
     
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    Hata baadhi ya wakaka wakiachwa hua wanafanya hayo....
    Wote tuzingatie!!
     
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    kwa nini inakuwa hivyo?
     
  18. AshaDii

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    It is not that simple Invisible hasa kama you really loved him... He is the only one you wish you could forget the only one you love enough to forgive/not forgive and though he breaks your heart you try to bring him back... Ukifanya baadhi ya the above at the end unaridhika that kweli there is nothing there... You can never understand the pain of a girl whose heart has been broken....
     
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    All I can say to this post Invinsible is THANK YOU.
     
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    Namba 3 huwa inakuwa shida sana kwa baadhi ya watu
     
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