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Je Nadanganywa??? Pls nishaurini..

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Boflo, Nov 4, 2010.

  1. Boflo

    Boflo JF-Expert Member

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    Wana JF huyo Mdada anahitaji ushauri

    Mimi ni msichana wa miaka 29 nina elimu ya form 4 na nikasoma Secretary VETA miaka 2 pamoja na Computer n.k…Nikabahatika kupata kazi kwenye kampuni binafsi mpaka sasa hivi nina miaka 9 katika hiyo kampuni nikapandisha vyeo mbalimbali ila nafanya kwa ujuzi tu hizo kazi na sio kwa vyeti na mshahara wangu sasa hivi ni 1.million pamoja na marupurupu yote (Nimeelezea haya ili niweze pata ushauri unaofaa kwa kulinganisha kipato na hali halisi ninayoishi.) nina uhusiano na kijana mmoja hapa na nikazaa nae mtoto mmoja wa kiume ana miaka 2 sasa..tatizo kijana mwenyewe ni jeuri/dharau/hana upendo kabsaa…na kikubwa zaidi yeye ana elimu ya darasa 7 na hata ufahamu wake ni mdogo yaani kazi anayofanay ni biashara za hapa na pale elimu kwangu sio issue muhimu ni Upendo n.k Japo anaonyesha nia ya kunioa lakin mmmh NIMESHINDWA.

    Kwa bahati mbaya/nzuri nikakutana na kijana mwengine mtanzania ambae anaishi Marekani nae amezaa mtoto 1 wa kiume lakin bado hajaoa…..na ana passport ya Marekani (nimetoa hizo detailz ili mtakaponishauri mjue mnaanzia wapi) ..tulikuwa tunachat kwenye mitandao yaani tukawa tunapenda kama vile tumeonana..mpaka mwaka jana alipokuja tz tukaonana na kila mtu akaridhika na mwenzie….kwa kweli nina mpenda sana tu nay eye pia anaonyesha kunipenda…ILA TATIZO NI KWAMBA HATA NIKIWA NA SHIDA HUWA NAIELEZEA KWAKE KAMA STORY YA KAWAIDA TU ILI WALAU ASEME OK NITAKUTUMIA PESA..HASEMI WALA HAJAWAHI NISAIDIA NA NA HATA UKITAMKA PIA ANASEMA HANA…Ila hapa Dar es salaam amejenga nyumba nzuri tu amenipeleka pia kuiona n.k.

    Kilichonifanya kuwauliza....ni hili Sasa hivi anataka kunioa ila yeye ni dini nyingine lakin nilipomwambia amesema yuko tayari kubadili kuja kwenye dini yangu…Na anataka anioe na kwenda kuishi marekani na amesema atanitafutia Shule na mtoto pia atasoma n.kk…na yeye pia ni msomi na ana kazi nzuri tu, na ni mpole sana, ana busara, ni mwepesi kuomba msamaha na hapendi nikasirike hicho ndicho nilichogundua kwa miaka 2 niliyomfahamu kwa kuongea na simu na miezi 3 alokuja tz tukawa pamoja.

    1. SWALI LANGU NI HILI: JE KAMA HUYU MTU ANA UWEZO WA KUNIPELEKA U.S.A MIMI NA MTOTO NA AKATUSOMESHA SOTE IWEJE SHIDA NDOGO NDOGO TU ZA HAPA ANASHINDWA NITATULIA????? (Japo sehem kubwa ya maisha na mudu mwenyewe lakin kwasabab najenga huwa nakwama hapa na pale kibinadamu)…
    2. JE KWA MTAZAMO WENU HASA AMBAO WANAISHI U.S.A KITU KAMA HICHO KINAWEZEKANA KUMUDU MAISHA YA KUMSOMESHA MTU NA MAMA YAKE??

    3. NA KAMA HAKUFANYA AKANIDANGANYA JE NITAFANYAJE????? (Naogopa kufanya tamaa kisa nimesikia Nje baadae nikajuta).\

    4. Na kama ni kweli…ATATUMIA UTARATIBU UPI WA MIMI NA MTOTO KUISHI PALE BAADA YA VISA HALALI KWISHA??

    Niko njia panda naomba mnishauri Matusi na kejeli pia ntapokea…Ila nitashukuru kwa wale wote watakaonipa hali halisi ya maisha ya U.S.A kulingana na story yenyewe…NAKUWA NA WASIWASI SABAB KAMA NITACHEMSHA NA NIKAWA SIJAPATA CHANCE YA KUSOMA NIKIRUDI TZ NAJUA KAZI YANGU SITAIPATA TENA…NATAKA KUJUA KAMA NADANGANYWA AU HIVI VITU VINAFANANA NA UKWELI. NIKO NJIA PANDA....NAHITAJI USHAURI WA UKWELI NIFANYEJE?
     
  2. FirstLady1

    FirstLady1 JF-Expert Member

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    Huyu nae anadhani ughaibuni ndo kuna dili ,mwambie asiache mbachao kwa msala upitao
     
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    Edo JF-Expert Member

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    Anaishi marekani, anafanya kazi kampuni gani au biashara ipi anayofanya!!!
     
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    Enny JF-Expert Member

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    Kwanza napenda kuuliza, vipi huyo bwana mwenye mtoto mumeshaachana ? Au naye unaendelea naye ki aina? Pili, huyo bwana wa marekani ulishamuuliza anafanya kazi gani huko?
     
  5. afrodenzi

    afrodenzi Platinum Member

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    yaani kuwa mwangalifu sana ... kwa kweli kama unauwezo nenda peke yako kwanza kaweke mambo sawa halafu rudi umchukue mwanae... kwani ukiwa mwenyewe itakuwa rahisi kidiogo.... na unatakiwa utumie ujanja sana ili usipoteze kazi yako ya sasa.. sema tu unachukua holiday ya miezi 3 au kitu kama hicho ... o just say is emergence ... kwa sababu hatujui Mwenyezi Mungu ametupangia nini hapa duniani labda wewe kwenda kuishi nje ndo ridhiki yako ... know one knows.... take care be caution
     
  6. WiseLady

    WiseLady JF-Expert Member

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    matapeli ni wengi mwaya kuishi nje haina maana kuwa hawezi kuwa tapeli kuwa makini sana,,,huyo uliyezaa nae kinachomsumbua ni ulimbukeni na inferiority,nahisi mkifunga ndoa utakuwa umejibebesha mzigo.Tulia jipange vizuri pia muombe Mungu
     
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    Wakuchakachua JF-Expert Member

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    kweli hapo dada ni cross roads na unahitaji ushauri, sasa wewe tulia hayo maswali uliyo yauliza hapa jitahidi kumuuliza na huyo muhusika wa marekani na kama ana busara i belive atakujibu na utapata taswira nzur, kwani sis twaweza sema ni mkweli kumbe si, ingawaje wew unaonyesha kumuamini basi ask him first then yote utayajua kutoka kwake, kumbuka nyota njema huonekana asubuhi, huyo uliezaa nae achana nae kabisa
     
  8. mdoe

    mdoe JF-Expert Member

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    Wapige chini wote, Tulia chini ufikirie jinsi ya kumlea mwanao na umtengenezee mwanao future iliyo simama. We jiingize uone. ohooooo.
     
  9. KakaJambazi

    KakaJambazi JF-Expert Member

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    Ushampa tundi? kama bdo hiyo ndo gia ya kuombea,,afu anakula kona.
     
  10. The Finest

    The Finest JF-Expert Member

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    Yale yale, wale wale
     
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    Enny JF-Expert Member

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    Mwambie wewe na mtoto awasomeshe kwanza hapahapa kabla hamjaenda
     
  12. Maty

    Maty JF-Expert Member

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    Wakina nani? toa ushauri
     
  13. Elia

    Elia JF-Expert Member

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    Anakudanganya..! Mwanaume halisi/mume mtarajiwa lazima akate mshiko ukiolewa unaweza kuwa na complains kama hizo but not now. Achana nae huyo. Huyu mwingine wa kibongo hebu kuwa open kwake chukulia kama yuko pekeyake mpe care stahiki then angalia kama bado una mfeel kama sio mpotezee. mind you umemuona na kasoro kibao sababu ya huyo wa USA. My opinion non of them is perfect, Kwenda US! :nono: ukirudi baada ya kuchemsha hata huyo mstd7 atakukacha kwa shule yako ni bahati kupata hako ka mshiko tunza hiyo DONT GOOO:A S angry:
     
  14. Baba_Enock

    Baba_Enock JF-Expert Member

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    Form 4 ... Amefanya kazi miaka 9... Analipwa Net 1,000,000/= : You must be very lucky!

    Achana na mapenzi, jiendelezi kelimu!
     
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    Masaki JF-Expert Member

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    Jamaa anabeba maboksi USA. ......Halafu wewe unafanya kazi kisha bado unaomba omba pesa kwa mwanaume, halafu mkitoswa mlalamika!
     
  16. kisukari

    kisukari JF-Expert Member

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    huwezi jua,pengine huyo wa usa ni member wa j.f.maana j.f kuna member kila kona.kuhusu mada yako,kama una uwezo wa kwenda usa ni bora ungeenda kimatembezi ili uone hali halisi ya maisha ya huko,maana maisha ya nje ya nchi nayo yanachosha.kwa kifupi sometimes mapenzi yanataka sacrifice kama mnapendana kwa dhati.
     
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    BelindaJacob JF-Expert Member

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    Swali zuri umejiuliza, kama anashindwa kukusaidia kitu kidogo huko marekani ataweza? tafakari na ufanye uamuzi sahihi.
     
  18. dazenp

    dazenp Member

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    Uamuzi upo juu yako......tunaweza kukushauri kesho ikawa ni vice versa, umefanya kazi kitambo....umekuwa mjanja kwakuwa umekaa kwenye kazi muda mrefu na sitaki kuamini ni mwanaume mmoja tuu aliyekutongoza....umeweza beba maksi kibao toka kwa watu tofauti ila naweza kukuambia first listen to your Heart then consult your head.....naamini hakuna ushauri mzuri kwenye mapenzi kama sio moyo wako na kichwa chako vikishauriana.....Mwanaume anayekujali atakupa hata kama ni shillingi 1000 ilimradi anajua kuwa unastahili kwakuwa wewe ni kipenzi chake sasa kama huyo....hakupi sijui kama anakujali ilaa.....isije ikawa ulimpenda kwakuwa yuo marekani na anaishi nchi za watu ukajua hapa nimepata mteremko maana nanyi nyie mwapenda mdondo....la kufanya kuwa muwazi na mueleze unalo hisi na kufikiria......unajua nashangaa ingekuwa mwanaume ameanza kukuliza na wewe upo nje ingekuwa so different scenario.....huwezi amini...
     
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    ENZO JF-Expert Member

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    Kama u.s.a ya tandale kw tumbo kweli utakupeleka
     
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    bwanashamba Senior Member

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    acha tamaa dada kwa nini uyo mwanamke aliyezaa naye asimuoe,tafuta detail zake zaid
     
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