I Caught My Sister Cheating On Her Husband: Can I Tell Him?

Jamani kama ww ni mcha mungu ww kamsemehe kwa mume wake na pia kabla kwenda mwambie kabisa tabia yako sijaipenda na naenda kukusemea. maanake siwezi kuona sodoma na gomora inachukuliwa mzaa. Tena ikibidi waite kwenye maombi halafu upasue humo humo.
 
HorsePower said:
Ni kweli Elizabeth Dominic kuwa saa nyingine ni ngumu kujua cha kufanya. Ila kuna usemi usemao za mwizi ni arobaini, sasa unaweza kukaa kimya ukijua kuwa ndiyo umesolve tatizo halafu huyo dadako akaja kubambwa na kupewa kipigo kibaya plus talaka wakati still ulikuwa na nafasi ya kumshauri mapema kuiponya ndoa yao...

Ninachofikiri kumshauri si kitu kibaya, tatizo huwa ni namna gani unautumia mdomo wako kumshauri ili asijione amedharauliwa au kuumbuliwa. Suala la kuacha au kutokuacha hayo ni maamuzi yake mwenyewe, ila wewe utakuwa umetimiza wajibu wako mwema kwa ndugu yako! :A S confused:
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Kweli hapa ni kupima hekima na pia uhusiano wa aina gani anao na dada yake, mimi nasema this is a classic case of where you find yourself between a rock and a hard place, sasa hapa mwenyewe ataona jinsi ya ku compromise the situation and i think the safest bet right now ni kuongea na dada, sasa labda hapa swali litakuwa, how?
 
Boflo, what is happening between your sister and her husband is none of your business. as much as you feel to be part of their family, the only person you are related to is your sister. DON'T tell your brother-in-law anything. On the other hand, because you were raised together and share a lot in terms of education, morality, customs, core values and traditions, I think you should talk to your sister. Don't confront her harshly, don't be mad at her, don't be a moralist.

Just tell her that you know what she is doing and (in your humble opinion, for what it's worth) you think that she is putting her marriage in danger. remind her of how good (you think) her husband is to her and to their kids, and also mention the financial assistance he hs been providing the extended family (if it is more than you). then let her decide what to do.
If she does not change her behavior, and if you are afraid that once busted her husband might think you supported her, then just stay away from her to manifest your disapproval.

Narudia tena: what is happening between her and her husband is NOT your business, all you can do is provide humble advices to your sister.
 
The Boss said:
hujapata dada mwehu wewe
unaenda kusema....anafanikiwa kusamehewa na mumewe
anakufuata anakutukana hadi basi.
utakuja kuambiwa upewe wewe kitumbua kama inakuuma kikipelekwa nje
mbona mwenyewe haimuumi?

na ataanza fitna kwa mumewe hizo pesa unazopewa utazisikia kwenye radio....

hebu tafuta mke na njia za kuongeza kipato aisee
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The Boss hebu jaribu kufikiri kama ww ndio mume wa dadangu na unatuhudumia kwa gharama kubwa sana...

halafu kuna njemba ana mmega, ukija kujua utajisikiaje?? Na hii hatari ambayo mimi binafsi naiona, hivi kweli sipaswi

kuchukua hatua yoyote?!
 
Boflo said:
Her husband is a business man and he is the best man you would ever meet. He's so good to my family, and he hardly ever raises his voice or gets mad.

You know mellow and calm people? That's him! I love and respect him like I would my father cos he's like 8 years older than my sister.

He takes care of his children (they have two) and he gives my sister and me lots of money.......

Imeniuma sana sana kuona anamcheat........

Naomba Ushauri wenu kabla sijamsemea
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Wacha wivu, na wewe mwambie akupe tu. Unajuaje maelewano yao? pengine mumewe anapenda hivyo?
 
This one is a toughie. When you think about diseases and all that jazz you are left in a quandary - to tell or not to tell because people's lives could be in danger.

Personally I think it's none of my business but at the same time I feel for the husband and I ask myself 'what if she catches a venereal disease and passes it to him' and it happens that I were in a good position to try to at least prevent it from happening...how would I feel in the end?

But I think I'd opt to mind my own business.
 
likibumburuka hiyo ni aibu ya familia, pamoja na wewe, mwite na uumpe onyo kali na umwambie unamfuatilia, kama anataka kutikisa kiberiti na ajaribu.

Atamuua baba wa watu kwa ukimwi, watoto wapate tabu.
 
Boflo said:
The Boss hebu jaribu kufikiri kama ww ndio mume wa dadangu na unatuhudumia kwa gharama kubwa sana...

halafu kuna njemba ana mmega, ukija kujua utajisikiaje?? Na hii hatari ambayo mimi binafsi naiona, hivi kweli sipaswi

kuchukua hatua yoyote?!
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Kama humwogopi dada ako kwa namna yoyote ile jaribu kusema nae.......usithubutu kumwambia huyo shemeji yako .....mambo ya ndoa ni magumu Boflo .....anachofanya dadako sio sawa lakini pia hupaswi kumuhukumu kabla hujasema nae akueleze kwa nini ameamua kucheat.........yatakuja kukugeuka ukose hata hiyo pocket money.
 
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zomba said:
Sio kuibiwa jamani, pengine mzee hafai na wameelewana na mkewe kuwa mie niponipo tu na wewe ukiwa na hamu kaipeleke mara moja moja.
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Mh.....labda!..... ndio mana tunamshauri Boflo aseme na dadake tena macho makavu bila woga
 
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Boflo,embu sogea nikunong'oneze.......... i am just assuming dadako hajui ID yako jf......kesho kanunue simu card kwa jina lolote au fungua e mail address kwa jina feki kisha mpe dadako link ya hii thread......akisoma bila shaka ujumbe utafika......in case akikuhoji look at her straight in the face kisha muulize ...'dada jf ndo mtaa gani?'.
 
ndoa,ndoa!jamani hizi kuta za nyumba zinaficha mengi sana!wewe uzuri au ubaya wa shemeji yako(kama mume wa dada yako)unaujuaje?huwezi kumjua mtu kwa nje,amjuae shemeji yako ni DADA YAKO TU!tafuta rafiki kipenzi wa dada yako,jifanye umembamba shemeji yako mahali na mwanamke mrembo,sikilizia majibu,unaweza kukuta kwako sio shemeji kumbe ni SHEMEGA!YAWEZEKANA ANAMEGWA KAMA DADA YAKO!mana wa namna hiyo pia huwa wema sana ukweni,kiasi kwamba ukienda kusema anakutesa,kila mtu atakataa!
 
The Boss said:
hujapata dada mwehu wewe
unaenda kusema....anafanikiwa kusamehewa na mumewe
anakufuata anakutukana hadi basi.
utakuja kuambiwa upewe wewe kitumbua kama inakuuma kikipelekwa nje
mbona mwenyewe haimuumi?

na ataanza fitna kwa mumewe hizo pesa unazopewa utazisikia kwenye radio....

hebu tafuta mke na njia za kuongeza kipato aisee
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hahahha! khaa! ila kuna wadada wehu nyie acheni2
 
Bishanga said:
Boflo,embu sogea nikunong'oneze.......... i am just assuming dadako hajui ID yako jf......kesho kanunue simu card kwa jina lolote au fungua e mail address kwa jina feki kisha mpe dadako link ya hii thread......akisoma bila shaka ujumbe utafika......in case akikuhoji look at her straight in the face kisha muulize ...'dada jf ndo mtaa gani?'.
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Bishanga yani hua kila nikisoma coments zako zina nifurahisha sana naanza kuwaza huyu bishanga atakua mtu waaina gani mana hasomeki kabisa kila sekta yumo teh teh teh
 
Mtumie sms dada yakokupitia namba asiyoijua then chimba mkwala na kuelezea jinsi unavyotambua Uhusianowake wa n je,elezea vile vitu vya muhimu kumfanya ashtuke ikibidi taja na jinala huyo mgoni aka Jizi….eleza pia na ushahidi wa picha pia unao….then mwambiewewe ni rafiki wa karibu na mumewe au nduguye na muda wowote asipoachana nahuyo jamaa kila kitu kitakuwa hadharani kwa mume wake….huo ni ushauri tu siosuluhisho otherwise anachokifanya dada yako soon kitakuwa hadharani/ ni vyemaakaachana na hiyo tabia coz safari moja huanzisha nyingine.
 
Hi dunia inapasua vichwa wengine wanatafuta wanaume ATM wengine wanawachezea viduku mwambie dadako siku akikamatwa hata huyo anaemzuzua hatamtamani tena na atajutia ufisadi wake hadi kwenye mapenzi,nasikitika hiyo aibu ya familia ambayo haibebeki hasa kwa wazazi inasusha heshima hata katika jamii,mshauri dadako that prevent is more than cure.
 
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