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How to hide an office romance

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Kimbweka, May 5, 2011.

  1. Kimbweka

    Kimbweka JF-Expert Member

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    Having an affair with a co-worker, but fearing that it might land your job in trouble? Well, now you can hide that office romance by following only a few tips.

    Here is a set of guidelines on how to conceal your passionate office romp...

    Don’t change your routine
    The best way to conceal an office romance and cast a protective shell around your new relationship is to maintain your schedule throughout the work day. Nothing should change. People always notice significant changes in routine, especially if they’re the gossipy office types, so avoid doing anything out of the ordinary. This means no lunches with your new partner — especially if you’ve never been known to socialize with this person on a friendly basis before.

    Keep it to yourself
    You may have a few close friends at work with whom you really want to share the events of your recent hookup, but you can’t give in to this urge. This is a very crucial rule to follow when you want to conceal an office romance. Don’t brag to them in your office and send them away with a vow never to tell anyone. It’s acceptable to tell friends or family who don’t work in the office, but you better make damn sure they have no possible connection to your workplace.

    Don’t document it
    There are a number of ways to conceal an office romance while communicating with your love during the workday. You might think you can get away with sending 100 e-mails back and forth every day, but do not use your business address. Most companies have internal servers that can track any and all e-mails sent between employees, and if anybody over in IT happened to look, they would find more than enough evidence to convict.

    Restrict yourself to cell phone texts and voice mail—anything that has a chance of being seen by a co-worker isn’t worth the risk, reports Askmen.com.

    Avoid attending office social gatherings together
    The biggest problem with the office Christmas party and happy hour at the local bar is that two factors that could out you are involved: alcohol and gossip. Even if the two of you are never within 10 feet of each other at one of these get-togethers, you’re still taking a relatively big risk. You always have to be careful in the office to conceal an office romance, but you can’t imagine how precarious an employee social gathering can be. All it takes to set off a rumour wildfire is one slightly tipsy secretary who asks a particular question, and your answer can be interpreted in a variety of ways. So, the best thing to do is maintain the “Don’t change your routine” philosophy because purposeful avoidance is just as big a tip-off as always going to social functions together would be.

    Don’t let it affect your work
    You can send a few lovey-dovey messages via your cell phone, or exchange a brief kiss in the stairway, but you can’t let this relationship affect your work. First of all, you didn’t get to where you are by shirking your daily duties, and second, you’re already risking your future at the company simply by being with this person. If anything, work harder to compensate for your transgression, which may give you a slight edge if anybody ever finds out.

    While an office romance is a very common occurrence and not quite as taboo as it once was, many hurdles remain. The workplace still presents a lot of grey area when it comes to romantic excursions between employees, so in order to play it safe, it’s often best to keep your little fling under wraps. Pay close attention to the little giveaways that leave you open to suspicion
     
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    I think not starting an office romance is far easier than hiding it, once started. Remember the song "Mapenzi ni kikohozi, hayawezi kufichika ..."
     
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    Saizi nikiona uzi wako hata sisomi na print tu for future reference....LOL....
     
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    labda kama hamna mapenzi ya dhati kwenye hiyo romance!
     
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    Teh teh eeh pole, bado kamoja tu halafu sitoi tena mwezi mzima
     
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    Nimekaona, sijakasoma... no more energy nimebofya tu print....
     
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    That is very true, ni ngumu sana kulificha penzi la dhati hata kama wahusika watajaribu kufanya hivyo.
     
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    Office romance? mind you, new love is very exciting, and you may end up going deeper. This is because in most cases, marriaege love is routine, watoto, pesa, mafundi, wakwe, karaha za kazini na majirani. By the time mnapenda kitandani kila mtu amechoka kutatua matatizo. Lakini pamoja na hayo, if you communicate, you 2 can work out a tailor made love which suits your needs.

    On the other hand, office romance ni nzuri, hakuna worry ya shida ya umeme, maji, kodi, watoto, wakwe kwa kuwa kila mmoja wenu amemaliza hizo worries na mkewe/mumewe. Hata hivyo, Kama mwenzako anakufahamu vizuri na yuko attentive, atagundua. Kuna sehemu tu utateleza...... yameshawatokea watu wengi! Do not fall for it
     
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    usinambie una mpango wa ku do ze nidiful? mmmh?:israel:
     
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    Hapana... si unaelewa tena kua "KNOWLEDGE IS POWER" never know when to use it...
     
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    Observe sana.. what makes it fun ni ile sneeking around, having sex katika office furnitures, Flirting hasa kama uko tensed na kazi inakuboa, etc... But ole wako ukutane na immature hajui kua you are just having fun... you will suffer the consequences...
     
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    mmh.....usinambie....:ranger:
     
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    Mmmmmmh..
     
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    we are in 'the same office now', and as you know, I am between 30 and 39....no longer 'immature':ranger:
     
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    Mind a little romance? I really hate it if you take it too seriously and once you have the taste.....
     
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    now c'mon gal...lets have some coffee..mmh:ranger:...by the way, I have some sweets with me, your favourite ones...c'me and get 'em..:busu
     
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    :A S-confused1::A S-confused1::A S-confused1: You always confuse me when you talk about sweets.... I think we should find a new word for it...LOL ... I radher like..
     
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    what would you prefer babe.....(that alternative word for sweet will get us behind bars here)
     
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    I get it ... thats why nilishindwa... but worry not... once we rumble then we will decide...
     
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    Orait Orait,,,got it, so its rumbling, then romance, then rumbling (again) Life is good

    have you seen my great son here, NN?
     
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