Hear what oprah winfrey had to say about men

[ng'wanankamba]

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.​

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.​

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.​

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.​

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.​

Slower is better.​

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.​

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.​

Don't settle.​

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is​

Don't stay because you think "it will get better"​

You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.​

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.​

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.​

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?​

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.​

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.​

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.​

You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within.​

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...​

Even if he has more education or in a better job.​

Do not make him into a quasi-god.​

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.​

Never let a man define who you are.​

Never borrow someone else's man.​

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.​

All men are NOT dogs.​

You should not be the one doing all the bending...​

Compromise is two way street.​

You need time to heal between relationships...​

There is nothing cute about baggage...​

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship​

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...​

A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...​

Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.​

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.​

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted​

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.​

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*​

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.​

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil​

You should know that:​

You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.​

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.​

Make the right one.​

Ladies take care of your own hearts....​

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...​

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.​

 

[KWI KWI]

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Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*​

Keep him in your radar but get to know others...............​

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Hapo kwenye RED ndipo mnapo chemka.....mguu nje mara mguu ndani...si ukicheche huo?

 

[TIMING]

she is gay.....period!!

 

[AshaDii]

Oprah, Oprah no wonder you are not married; dragging your partner for all these years without a wedding ring nor a child....
Nothing is this black and white...

 

[Kiranga]

I highly doubt Oprah said that, this is one of those internet hoaxes.

 

[AshaDii]

I highly doubt Oprah said that, this is one of those internet hoaxes.

Kiranga kajimwage katika hio website uhakikishe....

snopes.com: Oprah on Men

 

[Gaga]

Hapo kwenye RED ndipo mnapo chemka.....mguu nje mara mguu ndani...si ukicheche huo?

Hiyo tu ndio umeiona

 

[afrodenzi]

duuuuhhhh...

 

[Michelle]

nimeipenda....thanks Oprah...you made my day!

 

[BAK]

nimeipenda....thanks Oprah...you made my day!

Mhhhh! Michelle! bora nisiseme tu...ngoja niongeze kidogo lakini hahahahah lol!...Oprah....Mhhh! bora nijinyamazie tu :bange:

 

[BlackBerry]

Don't EVERmake him feel he is more important than you are...
nimependa haya maneno sana mpendwa
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[Michelle]

Mhhhh! Michelle! bora nisiseme tu...ngoja niongeze kidogo lakini hahahahah lol!...Oprah....Mhhh! bora nijinyamazie tu :bange:

Honestly mi naona katoa ushauri mzuri.....nafikiri watu wamekuwa subjective badala ya Objective.....we look at who Oprah is and her failures as a human being and not what Oprah said....this is unfair BAK....there is a lot of wisdom in those words....!

 

[Michelle]

Don't EVERmake him feel he is more important than you are...
nimependa haya maneno sana mpendwa
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Never let a man define who you are.....
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour

mi penda hiyo sana...

 

[AshaDii]

Honestly mi naona katoa ushauri mzuri.....nafikiri watu wamekuwa subjective badala ya Objective.....we look at who Oprah is and her failures as a human being and not what Oprah said....this is unfair BAK....there is a lot of wisdom in those words....!

Michelle badala ya kutumia the whole maneno naoma soma upya hii line na uniambie you still think it the best idea...

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.

 

[BAK]

Never let a man define who you are.....
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour

mi penda hiyo sana...

Nakubaliana nawe kwamba ni kweli kuna hekima nyingi katika maneno yake (kama kweli ni ya oprah)..lakini kama hili hapa chini Mhhhhh! Sijui hapo kwenye nyekundu alikuwa anamaanisha nini.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others...............​

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Michelle badala ya kutumia the whole maneno naoma soma upya hii line na uniambie you still think it the best idea...

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.

Kwahiyo we unaona amekosea kusema hivyo??I personally agree with what Oprah said isipokua tu aliposema umweke mwanaume ambae hajafikia vigezo wakati unatafuta aliyenavyo ili ukikosa uwe na pakurudia!

 

[AshaDii]

Kwahiyo we unaona amekosea kusema hivyo??I personally agree with what Oprah said isipokua tu aliposema umweke mwanaume ambae hajafikia vigezo wakati unatafuta aliyenavyo ili ukikosa uwe na pakurudia!

Lizzy maneno yoote aloonge yako poa but ka conclude mno, hii statement Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. kwa upande wangu mpaka uifanyie kazi there has to be compromises cause kila mtu anatabia fulani yenye madhaifu. Hio tabia tabia kama ina overrun mapenzi juu yako inakua hafai but kama mapenzi yana overrun hio tabia naona kama compromising ni bora zaidi...

 

[Dr Lizzy]

Lizzy maneno yoote aloonge yako poa but ka conclude mno, hii statement Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. kwa upande wangu mpaka uifanyie kazi there has to be compromises cause kila mtu anatabia fulani yenye madhaifu. Hio tabia tabia kama ina overrun mapenzi juu yako inakua hafai but kama mapenzi yana overrun hio tabia naona kama compromising ni bora zaidi...

Sidhani kama anaongelea yale mapungufu yanayoeleweka kama kusahau kupiga mswaki au kuchelewa nyumbani mara moja moja.Fikiria mtu asiyemwaminifu au anaekupiga kila anapojisikia...unamuEXCUSE kwa sababu na kwa kutumia vigezo vipi bila kujidharaulisha/kujipendekeza/kujidhaifisha usipotakiwa kufanya hivyo???Hapo ndo unasikia watu wanalia wanaonewa wanaonewa kumbe wanajionea wenyewe!!

 

[nyumba kubwa]

Angetupa ushuhuda jinsi gani hizo theory zimework kwake kwanza. Ni sawa na Europeans,World Bank na IMF wanapotoa prescriptions za kufikirika kwa LDCs ambazo hazina matunda yoyote. Je hizo theory zimework kwake au kwa nani na katika mazingira gani. Maana mwanaume/mwanamke wa kizungu si sawa na wa kiafrika.

 

[Michelle]

Michelle badala ya kutumia the whole maneno naoma soma upya hii line na uniambie you still think it the best idea...

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.

I think its the best idea...unajua kuna ile mtu ana cheat,lets mwanaume,mwanamke anasema ni mapungufu yangu,ni shetani tu kampitia,yule mwanamke kamloga,mara wanaume ndo walivyo nikimuacha nitampata wapi asiyenipiga au kucheat?....nafikiri hii ni mbaya na wanawake wanapaswa kuacha kujilaumu na kukubali mateso kuwa sehemu ya maisha yao ya kila siku wakitoa visingizio chungu nzima....uwepo uvumilivu wa kiasi na si justification za kipumbavu ili mradi uhusiano umeendelea!!!