IN CHURCH sisters are complaining the brothers are boring, out there Women claim the men are irresponsible and non committal. College girls say their fellow men are broke and young, in offices LADIES will tell you their colleague are dating younger women. Where are good men?Is it true that good men are no longer available? Many Sisters in church want to justify why they have to give in to a secular guys who are more fun as opposed to the dull unresponsive brothers. In and out of church I have constantly heard this statement: "I never meet good men." Listening to men there is now a new cliché of: "you rarely meet a good woman; most will follow you for your money." Those with well to docareers and stable financially are now accused of following vulnerable men tokill boredom. At times I think that the problem is where our women arelooking for the good men. I am not sure you will get some good men in the smokybar or at the bus stop or at your pity party girls Friday night out. In most times good men are found by default in college, in the line of duty, service or as you serve God. It is sad to hear women cry they don't find good men whereas when they won't show up at team building events or when they are sent to represent the company at a corporate event they leave as soon as they register their names. It is sad to see the same sisters who complain that there are no good men in church never turn up for Church retreats, weddings or evangelism missions. I don't in any way suggest that you attend these activities with the sole mission of netting a good man but you can be sure as you interact in class, at work, a corporate or in church your chances of getting a good man are higher. It is never a shock of how fast relationships made in the bar as compared to the number of couples who met in school or church service. Isn't sad when you see girls screaming wildly as they give themselves over to celebrity musicians? I got no problem with having fun at a gig but at least preserve your dignity. I am sure no good man will want you around them after seeing you giving yourself over like a desperado. Interesting enough even those you were raving with will not look at you twice when they are sober. Good men are not always the bubbly fun loving guys around and in most cases it needs us to take time to learn people to know them. Most of them are at times wrapped in boring outlook and not so outgoing personalities but once you take time to learn them you discover the gem inside them. We need to shift our mindset from the love at first sight of the bus stop, atm lobby or on the streets to the gradual kind of love. Let's embrace the spirit of growing in love which happens when we take time to interact with people on events separate from ‘hunting missions.' Better a boring man who is home with you and the children and friends other than the fun loving who is always on the move to the next fun town. Have you ever wondered why men who meet wives in the bar won't want you close a bar after marrying you? Because they know that often nothing good comes from it. It is surprising that there is a category of women who want good men who will provide, love them and offer security yet they are not putting effort to be good women. A good man is often attracted to a good woman who knows how to care, keep a home, be submissive and have the qualities of bringing up a responsible family. In seldom times kind men at a bus stop, a crime scene, rainy day in town or inside a dark elevator under a black out turn out to be spouses but these are rare times, good men are found in good places! If you want a good man, be a good woman and be in a good place, you are most likely to get one. TF.