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Dating Your Coworker Or Boss, Is This A Good idea?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Felixonfellix, Mar 24, 2010.

  1. Felixonfellix

    Felixonfellix JF-Expert Member

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    That's a million dollar question! Dating your coworker or boss, someone you see at least five days a week, eight hours or more a day, why not?

    Well, that depends if dating your coworker will create problems in the workplace for you. Probably not a good idea to date your boss, this could cause problems for you down the line.

    Imagine, you're in the company cafeteria talking to your coworker that you date. Sally and John just walked into the cafeteria and they immediately start staring and whispering to themselves about the both of you. You know they're talking about you because they look in your direction continuously while they whisper.

    You and the coworker you date, feel very uncomfortable with Sally and John's reaction to you having lunch together. You think to yourselves that it may have been a mistake for you to have lunch together in the cafeteria where you work.

    You're now going to be the topic of your other coworkers conversation you believe, thanks to Sally and John who are known in the workplace as the king and queen of gossiping at your job. Both of you now wonder if the two of you should be dating and what were you thinking when you decided to have lunch together in the company's cafeteria.

    What type of problems could dating your coworker or maybe your boss cause? Well, what if you get into an argument at home or while you are on a date, when you go back to work you have to see that person almost everyday! If that person is your boss, then you could possibly loose that promotion you worked so hard for or maybe you have to walk on eggshells while you're at work! This could make you feel very uncomfortable.

    Or, if you're getting along well with the coworker or boss you're dating, your coworkers may think when they see you together that you may be getting special treatment. Especially if the boss you are dating favors you and gives you a promotion. This could cause a problem for the both of you.

    If you just have to date your coworker or boss, consider keeping your personal relationship outside of the workplace! When you participate in this type of relationship, keep it professional in the office and personal outside of workplace. This is key in keeping the work place rumor mill to a minimum on having information about you and your coworker dating.

    Only you will know if dating your coworker or boss will be a good idea for you. If you don't believe this will cause a problem, then go for it! There are many people that have found their soul mates in the workplace. So do what makes you happy, after all you are in control of your own destiny and love life.
  2. Raia Fulani

    Raia Fulani JF-Expert Member

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    Provided she/he is not married. This increases performance and smartness
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    Tall JF-Expert Member

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    this is a bad habit and it reduces performance
  4. Theodora

    Theodora JF-Expert Member

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    Its ones decision/choice. But this is a no-no in the cooperate world. Hata baadhi ya makampuni wanapolicy kabisa kuhusu office affairs, married people working together etc. Kuna sababu why we have office/work life and family life. There should be a clear cut line.

    You may loose respect from co-workers even from the boss , but if you are looking for fame, this is surely the quickest way to go.
  5. Noname

    Noname JF-Expert Member

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    its a BIG NO... if you are looking for career growth then you should separate your personal life and business...