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Be serious in your relationship

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Munkya, May 25, 2010.

  1. M

    Munkya Member

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    A couple has been married for 5 years now. They have a 2 year daughter.
    Like any couple they have their ups and downs, that’s life.
    One day just after they had a fight over their differences of opinion, the wife went shopping at the local mall, where she bumped into her ex boyfriend from varsity. After a chit-chat, she discovered he was doing well for himself in business. They exchanged numbers. From that day on, they started talking daily over the phone. Plans were made to meet, but where and when?
    That’s when the ex-boyfriend came up with a plan that they should meet in Cape Town to spend a week together. The ex boyfriend would organize everything; the plane tickets and nice beach holiday resort for them to enjoy.
    She would have to lie to her husband, saying she is going to a conference in Cape Town for a week.
    Her husband took her to the airport on Sunday evening.2 hours later she was met in Cape Town by her ex boyfriend who had arranged a very romantic evening with her. After the romantic evening they went back to the resort, made love without a condom, of course they have known each other for a very long time.
    For the next 5 days they had a wonderful time jollying/quad biking, up the mountain in the cable car, swimming and sun bathing etc, wining and dining at the Capes top cafe’sand restaurants, something she had rarely done with her husband.
    They enjoyed everything money could buy, until she left on Saturday afternoon back to Johannesburg.
    They used different flights to avoid being seen together (you know people talk).She was waiting in the airport for her husband to fetch her, when she received a call from her ex boyfriend who told her he was HIV- positive and that it it was not a co-incidence when they met at the mall.
    The reason why he infected her with the diseases was because he was jealous of the family she has and the beautiful woman she had become and the fact that he was financially successful but he is not happy because he knows that he is dying.
    At the moment she just stood there and froze; thinking about what to do, as it was already too late to take anti-retroviral. She could lay a charge against him; it would only expose her cheating on her husband.
    That’s when she took a tax to her best friend’s house. She told her friend everything that had happened and ask for advice. The friend advised her to come clean with her husband, tell the truth, she has just lost everything and has nothing more to loose. She then phoned her husband and explained everything.
    To my surprise, the husband collected his wife from her friend’s house he sat down with her and told her how much he loves her and reminded her of the vows he took at church and that it was a terrible mistake she has made, which unfortunately she ha s to pay for it with her life.
    He told her he is never going to leave her; he has forgiven her and will stick by her side no matter what happens.
    Now she stays in another bedroom and he shares his bedroom with their daughter.
    What is currently happening is, the wife is terribly sick and might die at any time. He told me this because he was asking me for prayer support, because he belives that a group of friends praying together, the stronger the prayer might be.
    And the other reason was that I should let you guys know of such happenings as a warning to anyone contemplating cheating, to weigh up if it’s worth it!
    As I sit and think about this experience, I though to my self: why him? But I can not seem to come up with an answer. Then there is a lesson here “You can never know what you ve got until….”
    The morale of the story is? As people, we tend to undermine those who love us for a moment’s pleasure (we are never aware when we are loved).
    We keep on chasing waterfalls rather than sticking to the rivers, where we can swim with ease.
    To all my brothers and sisters, love the one you are with….pass it on!!!!
    The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are, but how happy others.
     
  2. JM Aristotle

    JM Aristotle Senior Member

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    Thank you Munkya for sharing this thread...
    It's really a sad story... but as you said, There's a lot to learn from this...
     
  3. Ruge Opinion

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    Is this a real life story or fiction? If it is fiction that is OK the lesson is very clear. But if it is real life I have a problem with it because one does not automatically become infected with the HIV virus simply because he/she slept with an infected person. It is quite possible to be free of infection even if condoms were not used. Therefore the guy calling the lady and telling her that she had been infected a short time after their separation was a bit presumptuous. The lady could only be sure that she had been infected after being tested and normally the test results are reliable after a period of about 3 months after infection. The need for taking ARVs does not arise immediately after infection. It could take 5, 10 or more years after infection. My point is, the lesson from the story is important but the facts are not exactly right.
     
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    What goes around comes around! I wonder if there remains any semblance of faithfulness in today's marriages...:doh:

    And what baffles me even more is what I would call "the power of the ex". It seems these people hold trump cards that allow them to find their way into your spouse's pants with so much ease...:confused2:
     
  5. Penny

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    Ni kweli kabisa dear, sijui tuwafanye nini hawa jamaa na hizo cards zao...zinakera sana mpaka mtu unatamani kutoa mtu roho...eeeeh Mungu saidia. Jamani mwenye uzaidizi hebu atupu mbinu.
     
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    They surely do have that power! Believe me! I was once a victim in my past relationship! THEY DO HAVE! Once they intent to do it! It needs a lot of courage and self esteem for your partner to stand against it! Pray tht it will not happen to you my friend!
     
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    ????
     
  8. M

    Munkya Member

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    i got u...it rely on true story...am not a doctor but whta i believe is what i wrote...you should know that the women are in very danger of being affected if slept with an infected man without using condom.
     
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    ?????????? What?
     
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    Masikini_Jeuri JF-Expert Member

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    refer to the post; do you see the bold in red?

    Anauliza pale ama anatania?
     
  11. stanluva

    stanluva Senior Member

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    Thanx bro! It's really sad story! I love so much! But mine went to a conference too, do u think this is coincidence with u'r sad story? Oooh! I swear, I'm going to k...ll her if she lied to me!
     
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    It seems you don't trust YOURSELF!

    Pole!
     
  13. JM Aristotle

    JM Aristotle Senior Member

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    Maisha ya siku hizi mwenzangu!!! You can't be too careful...
     
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    mapenzi kizunguzungu!
     
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    Mokoyo JF-Expert Member

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    Mapenzi kifo
    Mapenzi furaha
    Mapenzi kicheko
    Mapenzi huzuni
    Mapenzi kugombana
    Mapenzi kupatana
    Mapenzi kuachana
    Mapenzi kupendana
    Mapenzi ni urafiki
    Mapenzi ni uadui
    Mapenzi ni kero
    Mapenzi ni tiba
    Mapenzi ni presha
    Mapenzi ni baraka
    Mapenzi ni laana
    Mapenzi ni kila kitu kwahiyo husiuzunike kwa lolote linalosababishwa na mapenzi kwani ni lazima yatokee tu
     
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    Masikini_Jeuri JF-Expert Member

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    of course you can't! She is HUMAN being with her independent MIND!

    There is no other option but to TRUST YOURSELF; in that way you will learn to trust her!
     
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    Munkya Member

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    ha ha ha wory not man...
     
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