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Ampendae kampiga kibuti: afanyeje ili kuvumilia maumivu ya 'heart break'?

Discussion in 'Mahusiano, mapenzi, urafiki' started by Pape, Feb 6, 2010.

  1. Pape

    Pape JF-Expert Member

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    Jana jioni nilipigwa na butwaa kumuona rafiki yangu akilia kuliko kawaida! Nilipomuuliza alishindwa hata kuongea! Basi nilianza kazi ya kubembeleza. Mwishowe nikaona hali yake inakuwa mbaya kwani alikuwa anaonekana anauchungu sana kiasi cha mwili wote kumtetemeka! Alikuwa hataki hata kunywa kitu chochote!

    Niliamua kumpigia simu mpenzi wake (girlfriend wake) kujua kama anataarifa yeyote! ndipo aliponiambia kwamba 'its over between them'...Niliamua kwenda kuongea na shem wangu ana kwa ana kwani hali ya jamaa ilikuwa ni mbaya sana (usipime)!

    Shem aliniambia kwamba siku za hivi karibuni alianza kupoteza mapenzi kwa jamaa (rafiki yangu) kwahiyo alikuwa hajisikii kitu chochote na ndio maana ameamua kusitisha uhusiano wao! Nikamuuliza tena sasa ndio itakuwaje? Akanipa jibu kwamba amepata 'mtu mwingine ambaye anahisi ndiye chaguo lake la moyo!

    Baada ya kurudi home kwangu nikajaribu kumuuliza mshikaji wangu nae akasema kwamba yeye (mpenzi wake ndiye ameamua) na kunipa sababu aliyopewa na shem (sababu ile ile shem aliyonipa mimi wakati naongea nae).

    Sasa nimeendelea kukaa na huyu jamaa lakini analia na kuniambia kwamba kuachwa na huyu mpenzi wake ni pengo kubwa sana! Jamaa yaani analia tu kula hali! Nimejaribu kumwekea movie aaangalie lakini wapi!

    Naleta kwenu jamani, hivi kuna njia gani ya kumfariji mtu aliyeachwa na mpenzi wake? Nifanyeje kumsaidia manake naogopa jinsi anavyoweweseka hapa! Je, nimwache alie tuuu au nifanyeje?
     
  2. A

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    Mapenzi ni watu wawili kupendana, sasa kama mtu mmoja hajisikii chochote kwa mwenzake, hata wakirudiana mapenzi hapo hamna. Ndo yale utasikia mke anakuwa na buzi lake nje. Huyo rafiki yako ajitahidi kuchukuliana na hali hiyo na aone kama haikuwa bahati yake. Tena ashukuru Mungu kwa kuwa hali hii imejitokeza wakati bado wako kwenye urafiki, ingetokea wakiwa kwenye ndoa ingekuwa balaa.

    Cha kumsaidia kwa sasa ili asiwaze sana juu ya hilo, wewe mtoe out, mahali kwenye mkusanyiko wa watu wengi ili aweze kubadili mazingira na mawazo. Mfano mnaweza kwenda beach, mnaweza kwenda kutembea kwenye masupermarket makubwa kama Mliman city n.k.

    Kazi kweli kweli.
     
  3. Kiranga

    Kiranga JF-Expert Member

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    The best way to get over a lover is to get a new and better lover.
     
  4. Pape

    Pape JF-Expert Member

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    Je, hiyo si inakuwa kama vile ni kukomoana?
     
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    Kiranga JF-Expert Member

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    Hapana, itakuwa kukomoana tu kama unataka kujionyesha. Ikiwa part ya ku-move on, ikiwa imefanywa kwa sababu ya kutaka kumridhisha aliyepigwa kibuti zaidi ya kutaka kumuonyesha aliyepiga kibuti, inaitwa "betterment".

    Ikiwa inafanywa kwa sababu ya kumuonyesha aliyepiga kibuti inaiwa "bitterment" na zaidi ya yote inaonyesha aliyepigwa kibuti hajaweza kusema "it is over".



    Pussywhipped 26: 1 -2.
     
  6. Pape

    Pape JF-Expert Member

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    well noted but what is that in red?
     
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    Fidel80 JF-Expert Member

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    Jamani vibuti ni kawaida kwa sisi wanaume kupigwa inategemea sera zako pamoja na jinsi gani unavyo hudumia mzigo.
     
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    Kiranga JF-Expert Member

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    Hiyo biblia ya mambo ya relationship, si unaona inakupa na aya kabisa.
     
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    hicho kitabu kipe jina lingine ikiwezekana basi....
     
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    ufafanuzi hapo nilipopigia mstari
     
  11. Fidel80

    Fidel80 JF-Expert Member

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    Hahahaha yaani huduma anazitoa jamaa kwa huo mzigo mpaka ukaamua kumpiga kibuti yaelekea alikuwa hazami sana kwenye EPA ndo maana mzigo ukaamua kumpiga red card. Hujui mapenzi siku hizi bila EPA hayaendi?
     
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    bht JF-Expert Member

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    kwa hiyo mwanamke ndio mzigo wenyewe hapo???
     
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    Fidel80 JF-Expert Member

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    Ndo maanake, upo sahihi kabisa. Ukisikia mtu anasema ule mzigo jamaa anaubeba manaake ni mwanamke.
     
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    Pole sana na hilo lilokupata au yalompata rafiki yako..Katika mapenzi jamani ni hamna jinsi ya kumsaidia zaidi ya yeye kuanza kusahau kidogo kidogo,watu watatoa mengi fanya hivi fanya hivi jamani kibuti jamani kinauma,yakikupata ndo utajua nini maana ya kuachwa,sometimes to be player helps cuz utakutana na mengi ya kuachwa au kuacha,yameshanitokea hayo ndo maana naandika hivyo..Mkuu huyo rafiki yako kaa nae karibu tuu soon he will be okay and find another one to replace...daima lenye mwanzo mwisho unasubiri ingawa utachelewa..
     
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    Pape ni msanii.
     
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    ...mwambie ujasiri hupimwa kwa jinsi anavyoweza kukabiliana na mshtuko kama huo, ...asing'ang'anie kuangalia mlango ulofungwa akakosa kuona milango mipya inayofunguka mbele yake,

    Kama hataki kuelewa, mpe kalamu na karatasi aorodheshe mabaya ya huyo mpenzi wake kuanzia walipoanzana mpaka walipoachana, atafarijika tu.
     
  17. Pape

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    Nitaipata wapi?
     
  18. Pape

    Pape JF-Expert Member

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    Jamani EPA ndio kitu gani katika mapenzi?
     
  19. Pape

    Pape JF-Expert Member

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    Msanii wa mapenzi?
     
  20. Nyani Ngabu

    Nyani Ngabu Platinum Member

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    Rebound is not good. It's better to take a break and regroup before you jump into another relationship. And passage of time is the best healer of heartache.
     
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