A Mistake That "Turns Women Off" INSTANTLY ... Men, Be Care Full

Bramo

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Dear Friends,
Lets Share this as well.....

It's a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don't be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive
woman... but the more he got to know her, the more
he began to feel attracted to her... and the more
time he spent with her, the more that attraction
grew into a deep emotional attachment and
affection for her.


But, there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn't tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes, she would say things like, "You are
so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in
my life"... but nothing ever progressed past the
"friendship" stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss
on the cheek from her... and once, she even held
his hand for a long time while he talked about an
emotional issue.
But, something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn't acting like a woman that was
"falling in love". She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself... and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing
things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his
girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that, if she only knew how HE FELT, she
would feel the same way.
So, he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he felt.
He confessed that he was in love and that he
would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said, "Thank you... I really mean that... but
I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're
too important to me...."
This only confused the man more.
He didn't know how to take it...
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long
term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything
on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn't go on like
this anymore... he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how
much he wanted to be with her... so, he took a
big step - He bought her a symbolic gift and
wrote her a long, long letter... again
confessing his feelings.
And then, the unthinkable happened.
She didn't reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy and
said, "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go"... and hung up...
But... he never got a call back.


Over the following months the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong... and
what happened.


.......THE END.......
 
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She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said, "Thank you... I really mean that... but
I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're
too important to me...."
Lesson No. ONE............DO NOT BE A PUSHER................................She told him point blank that she was only interested in brethren kind of association with zero tolerance to romance and he was stalking her with unwanted advances.......how mediocre.............

Lesson No. TWO...................LEARN TO ACCEPT NO MOST OF TIME MEANS A BIG NO...................Why haranguing someone whose friendship you have taken for granted...........................Kama kuna penzi fahamu nalo ni kikohozi haliwezi kufichika kwa pande zote mbili..........................................
 
Insecurity is a turn off...i agree with this.. men should be confident and never show a woman that you are desperate to be with her.:A S 39:

Let your intentions known to a woman indirectly after you have met her and get to know about her a bit... do not act as a brother while what you wish is to be a lover/boyfriend....:plane:
 
ILet your intentions known to a woman indirectly after you have met her and get to know about her a bit... do not act as a brother while what you wish is to be a lover/boyfriend....:plane:

Can you delineate how you go about doing that? If you don't mind, of course.
 
Kutokana na experience zangu hakuna mahala the guy alifanya ilosababisha the lady to refuse, as muchas he was feeling insecure and adding to the insecurity he had; the truth of matter here is that of all their time of relationship there was not a time the lady alimpenda huyo kaka. Most ladies can read signs from the guy who has a crush on them, or if planning to do so. Hivyo zile early stages kaka alianza kupersue yule dada angerespond positively kama angekua interested. The only thing huyo kaka ilitakiwa ajutie ni kupoteza the friendship they had because of pushing matters.

But also ni kweli girls hatupendi a guy ambae yuko insecure katika relationship; anatupa a non-stop persisting headache!
 
sijaelewa lolote sababu sijui kupenda



itnojec una bahati mbaya wewe na najua hujui na unajiona mwenye bahati kukwepa hilo, I hope yor are really young and there is still a chance mana watu wa namna hii hua wanashikwa pabaya sana anapobabwa hasa kama mtu mzima - kama una familia you turn out kutojali kabisa.
 
afu kuna wanaume wengine ukimuambia hutaki uhusiano wa kimapenzi mnakuwa maadui!yaani he cant make rationa judgements especially proffessionally (that is,kama mnapaswa kufanya kazi pamoja).so mediocre!
 
when a woman loves,she loves for really..!tatizo wanaume wanafail kumsoma mwanamke mapema.kama mwanamke akiwa interested na wewe utamjua mapema.
 
Maumbile haya ni ya ajabu sana,pale unapopenda hupendeki,pale usipopenda unapendeka,mradi tu kizungumkuti.
 
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