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9 Simple Things Women Want

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    9 Simple Things Women Want

    By YourTango.com

    Besides the meaning of life and the ingredients of hot dogs, many a man has questioned, "What exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures. And, true, we operate on a different wavelength than men.

    But women aren't exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. The proof? We polled the YourTango staff and compiled a list of 9 simple things women want. Note: you won't find diamond rings or other fancy things anywhere on this list. While many women really do want luxury goods from men, when you break it down they are just physical representations of some of the points on this list.

    1. Respect. Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies, and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

    2. Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile.

    3. Time. We understand relationships can't be all wine and roses; simply making the time to be with us and treating us like your top priority says "love" more than all the fancy gifts and lovely letters ever could. This includes helping around the house. The realities of a 21st-century relationship are that both partners probably work. If you happen to get home before we do, why not vacuum the living room or throw in a load of laundry? If you take the garbage out without being asked, chances are you'll be getting a big ole smooch when you come back.

    4. Dinner. Of the homemade variety. You may not be good at cooking and you may not know how to boil water. But greeting us at the door after a long day with fish sticks (or whatever you can wrastle up) makes us swoon, because it shows that you've been thinking about us and our hectic day.

    5. Communication. Women are vocal creatures. We know you love us, but it's nice to hear you say it, too. We can also be insecure. We wish we weren't, but the reality is that we often notice our wobbly thighs and forget about our gorgeous eyes. So let us know when you think we're hot. Tell us we're beautiful. It helps us feel good. Words of appreciation aren't half-bad either. Tell us you love the lasagna we made. Notice that we cleaned the bathtub. It doesn't have to be over the top, just let us know that you see the effort we put in, and you're grateful.

    6. Consistency. This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually -- no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.

    7. Engagement. Of the mental kind, not the "I'm getting married in the morning" kind. You don't have to like everything we like (we might be a little concerned if you do), but showing interest in our passions, be it career-related, a sport, or a hobby, goes a long way. Listen when we talk to you. We're not speaking just so we can hear our own voice; we want to connect with you and this is one valuable way we do this. This also means paying attention to the little things. Whether it's the name of your best friend's husband or the fact that you hate Nicolas Cage movies, it's the little things you remember about us that's so endearing.

    8. Humor and Humility. These two tend to go hand in hand. This doesn't mean that you have to crack jokes or entertain us, but just being able to laugh at yourself is enough. Guys who take themselves too seriously bring everyone down.

    9. Challenge. Not the kind that makes a relationship constant work, but the good kind that surprises and motivates us to do, be, or achieve what we desire. Studies show that partners who prod each other to meet goals -- in other words, don't support lazy or bad habits -- are ultimately happier than those who don't hold each other accountable.


    ....and What Men want?....mtajiju! nisije nikafungiwa bure kuvitaja hapa...LOL!
     
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    Chukua time huko wewe na mi broad generalities yako uliyo copy and paste...kila mwanamke yuko tofauti...
     
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    Kijana umetumwa kuja kupambana na BAK hapa ukumbini? Maana naona unanitafuta kwa udi na uvumba. Kama unataka mapambano na mimi haya kila la heri naweza kuuweka ustaarabu wangu penbeni na hata kama kufungiwa ni bora iwe hivyo. Maana umejiunga hapa July 29, hata week haijafika! lakini inaelekea mkakati wako ni kupambana nami. Karibu sana jukwaani kama unataka mapambano hapa umefika.
     
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    Wewe ni Fisi huyawezi mapambano bwa mdogo wewe.
     
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    Mkuu kisa hii thread au kuna jingine? I don't see how this thread has pushed your buttons to that extent.
     
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    mdogo wangu Omega!unaonekana hufai humu ndani
     
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    BAK achana naye asisumbue akili yako. Muache atapetape atatulia. Km anadhani kuna tatizo na wewe angesema siyo maneno ya kihuni. Nadhani wengi tungependa ashughulikiwe
     
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    hafai na wala hana mshipa wa aibu.
     
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    Hmmm na wewe...
     
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    ...mnh, haya manjonjo ya ughaibuni ukiyaleta bongo mnh!

    Kwanza hilo la mshumaa bongo ni kawaida kwa mgao wa umeme, hatokushangaa, sana sana atalalama mbu! kulana denda kwenye daldala ndio kutafuta kuzomewa!...halafu hiyo ya kumletea "Mwanamkasi" Bouquet la maua si ndio unataka upikiwe ugali na mboga ya waridi? ...doti ya khanga ya Mombassa ni substitute nzuri kuliko...!

    Namaanisha, kile kionekanacho 'dhahabu' kwa mwanamke wa kimagharibi huenda ikawa kituko kwa mwanamke wa kisarawe! Ni maoni yangu tu...
     
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    Mbu unaweza kuifanyia modification ili iendane na mazingira ya kwetu. Si unakumbuka ile thread yako ya jinsi watu wanavyonuna asubuhi wakiwa wanaelekea vibaruani? ;) Basi angalau wanaweza hata kuonyesha upendo kati yao hata kwa kupiga story, kutaniana n.k. badala ya kuonekana kama wamelazimishwa kuingia kwenye gari moja bila wao wenyewe kupenda.
     
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    BAK, mi naona inaelimisha sana post yako. Haswa katika mambo yetu ya mahusiano. Mi inanisaidia sana hiyo, sema tu inabidi mwanaume uwe makini kutimiza hayo na kuona kipi kinafaa na kwa wakati gani na sehemu ipi. Kupata mambo mbadala ni muhimu kulingana na mazingira, unaweza ukawa ukenyenge kishapu shinyanga lakini ukafanya mambo hayo bila kujua kuwa mambo hayo hayo anafanya mtu fulani marekani.
    BAK, Ahsante kwa post nzuriiiii.
     
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    Romance. It's another night on the couch with takeout and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife. Date nights, physical affection in the car, kissing like when we first started dating -- all of the things that made us fall in love with you don't have to stop just because now there are bills to pay, a house to be cleaned, and kids to be bathed. Bring home flowers for no reason. We're not talking $100 bouquets of roses here. Even the $10 bouquets from the supermarket are enough to make us smile

    hao ni wanandoa wa kwenye cities, au majuu - lakini how about the majority typical african woman?? hata hivyo vitu 9 mentioned kuwa ndio mwanamke anataka - it varies - kijografia, kidini, ki-environment, etc. nadhani hiyo ni kwa wale wa majuu -
    1) wana ndoa hao wawe wale wenye fedha ya kutosha - kama budget ni finyu saa ngapi utawazia maua?? TVs,

    2) familia hiyo iwe ya watu wachache - watu wengine nyumba ni ndogo - kubanana kwa sana - ukitilia maanani extended families - wapi mtapata muda wa ku-romance kwenye kochi etc.

    A little more homework is need to touch all aspects of women otherwise - the thread is limited and benefit the few modernized families.

    I would suggest that - a typical african woman wants:

    - enough food in the house
    - convinient shelter - water, electricity, latrines inclusive
    - to see her children get education
    - to have a husband who is part and parcel of the family
    - to have a husband who is not selfish (anaenda kula nyoma choma, beer etc) huku familia yake inakula chakula hicho hicho kila siku - kinabadilishwa siku ya x-mass au idd elftri tu
    - a husband who standby with his family in times of troubles and or/ceremonies - sio kila siku baba katoka (yuko nyumba ndogo)
    - to be sexually satisfied by her husband
    - respect, love, recognition by her husband
    - to be ensured that her husbands will is written in her name - sio shemeji ndio mrithi
    - to be married in the real sense of it - sio mawifi, mama mkwe ndio wana-act kama husbands.

    the list is long but I beg to submit the above

     
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    Hii mbona ni sawa na ile ndugu yangu IWEKE tu kwenye mazingira ya kwenu kwa maana hiyo ,anachohitaji ni kupendwa,kusikilizwa,kuliwazwa na kufarijiwa,kuhakikishiwa ulinzi na usalama wake na wa watoto,kupata mahitaji muhimu ya wanadamu kama chakula cha mchana na USIKU .kusaidiwa malezi ya watoto na kutambua mchango wake wa hali na mali.kuambiwa samahani inapobidi na kuambiwa asante bila kusahau kupongezwa na kukosolewa kwa wema na upendo
     
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    Ahsante sana kwa mchango wako mzuri. Uliyoyasema ni kweli kabisa maana imagine kwenda kutafuta maua kwa ajili ya mrembo kule Namtumbo, Ruvuma au mishumaa kule Uyole, Mbeya kwanza mrembo anaweza hata asikuelewe. Ni muhimu kufanya substitution kuendana na hali halisi ya mazingira ya nchi yetu na utamaduni wetu.

    Lakini kwa kifupi tu ni kwamba Wanawake wote duniani wanahitaji kuwa treated with lots of love and respect from their loved ones mengine ni kama viongezeo tu ambavyo si vibaya kama vikiwepo kutokana na mazingira halisi ya nchi yetu. Na mwanamke ukimpenda huwezi ukaficha na atajua tu unampenda kwa dhati kabisa hata kama hujawahi kumpelekea maua hata siku moja.
     
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    ..aahh ha haa.. umenikumbusha miaka ile unamuweka binti wa watu ndani ya miguu 18 unamsomea risala,... akili zikiwarudia, keshauharibu mti wa watu kwa kuukatakata majani na maua yake...!

    maua hayo!
     
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    Ha ha ha ha Wewe Mbu mtundu sana ;)
     
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    well said brother, huku kwetu kimanzichana kilo ya nyama inakupa credit kubwa zaidi ya Bouquet.
     
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    mmmhhhh very romantic ....:smile:
     
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