5 signs shes into you You and a pretty redhead are tucked away in a corner table at that impossible-to-get-into new French bistro. And lo and behold, you notice shes laughing at your jokes, twirling her hair, and giving other crystal-clear signs shes into you. Or is she? Problem is, it can be hard to tell sometimes whether a woman is truly interested or just going through the motions. But luckily, there are plenty of ways to tell the difference. The signs below are the real deal. 1. She touches herself up If shes excusing herself to the restroom between courses, its doubtful she has a weak bladder. Nope, more likely shes in there freshening up her makeup or making sure her hair is in place... all for you. If shes into you, shell be concerned with how she looks, says Alison James, author of the forthcoming Better Off Wed? Or, if shes at the table, shell be fixing her shirt or brushing her hair back, maybe checking that her bra strap isnt showing or adjusting her necklace the kind of stuff you do when youre worried about your appearance. 2. She asks about your family When a woman likes a guy, she doesnt want to get to know just him, says Jillian Straus, author of Unhooked Generation: The Truth About Why Were Still Single. She wants to know about his family and friends shes looking for clues about what life with him would be like. Indeed, especially if youve been set up or are on a blind date and know very little about each other, your relationship with your family says a lot about you and a woman interested in you wont hesitate to probe. I think family is very revealing about a persons personality, says Tina Andreadis, 35, of New York City. If hes close with his family, it shows that hes probably a warm person who values relationships and who would want a family of his own. If I am not interested in him, I wont even ask because I just dont care. 3. Shes attentive Lets put it this way: no matter how busy she is, shes not whipping out her BlackBerry if shes interested in what you have to say. If shes not checking her watch, email or cell phone, its just one more sign that shes paying attention to you, says James. When you like a guy, youre hanging on his every word. When you dont, youre distracted easily. Same goes for any preoccupations she has with the immediate environment, whether shes people-watching or admiring the restaurant décor or even the food. If shes saying things like, This restaurant is beautiful. Hey, doesnt that girl over there look like Marisa Tomei? she may be enjoying herself, but not necessarily because youre there. 4. Shes touchy-feely If you find your date engaging in a little physical contact along with witty banter, chances are youve made a very good impression. From tapping your knee to emphasize a point or touching your forearm to get your attention, if a womans attracted to you, she wont hesitate to reach out and let you know. Megan, 35, from New York City, employs this trick with guys she finds attractive. I pretend to steady myself when I dont need to be steadied, she says. When Im climbing onto a stool, Ill grab onto his shoulder or leg when I clearly dont need to, she laughs. 5. The date lasts longer than you expected Ask any woman desperate to wind down a date, and shell tell you she skips dessert or declines an after-dinner stroll. Naturally, then, if shes having a great time and doesnt want to see you go, shell gladly take the waiters suggestion and try the chocolate cake, or join you in the cab ride home. And if youve agreed to meet for coffee and after a few sips she takes you up on your offer of dinner? Thats a bright green light, my friend. Only if Im into the guy will I agree to go to dinner if he suggests it on a meet for coffee date, says Diana, a 38-year-old from Boston. If Im meeting a guy and Im not into him, Im definitely not going to agree to get food after. So now that you know the signs that shes really enjoying your time together, use them! Ask her for another date, have a goodnight hug or smooch... and things should move in a most positive direction.