ndio matatizo ya kusoma na kukulia seminari.......nitamzindua nampa mambinu ya kijeshi unajua mashori ukiwapeleka ki Isidingo wanakuona hamnazo......
tehe tehe mpemba una mijipointi walah

na akimaliza kumzalisha anaanza kumuona ,used, au 'second hand, ya nini yote hayo. kwanza angefunga nae ndoa mimba ingeweza kuja automatic hata hiyo masters asingeiwaza sana lakini kwa ahadi ya zaa kwanza ndo nikuoa, mmmh hapo pagumu. amalize masters tu waume mbona wengi tu

wazee mbona hamsomi ninachoandika?? arrrg au ibadilishwe jina la thread liwe anataka ndoa baada ya masters?.......msela anataka NDOA+KUZAA na sio kuzaa tu bila ndoa....nimeeleweka sasa?

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loooooh muhanga, sio wengi kihivyo,,,,especially waoaji. pitia pitia hata posts za hapa JF utanambia

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"" Nalisema nitayakiri maasi yangu kwa Bwana, naye atanisamehe upotovu wa dhambi zangu"

Kaizer@jamiiforums.com

one thing I know for sure kutunza familia esp one with a baby ukiwa shule ni ngumu sana kwa mwanamke one of them will have to suffer and most of the time it is the baby. am speaking from experience. unaacha mtoto na hse help muda mrefu sana watoto wengine wanacope na wengine hawawezi. I had to pack my daughter to my mother for almost 3 years sikutaka kusimama shule na mtoto ndio huyo alikuwa ameshawasili what to do, baba analalamika kila saa mtoto hapati matunzo anayostahili wakati yeye mwenyewe alishakuambia kabla we will manage hamna shida mama. inafikia wakati mwingine hata mtoto akiamka usiku ile kumbembeleza tu ni mbinde na labda wewe unafanya massignment.

Huyu kaka ajue kulea is a big commitment and a lot of sacrifices have to be made, maisha yatabadilika kabisa mtoto anapoingia, na ndio maana huyu dada hataki kufanya mambo mawili yenye umuhimu wa hali ya juu kama haya kwa wakati mmoja nina hakika amefikiri na akapima akagundua she doesnt want her kid to suffer if she could avoid it.

Upendo haushindwi na kitu: iwe umri, masomo, nk. Upendo HUSUBIRI. Kumbe mi naona jamaa kama anampenda mtoto amsubiri amalize masomo yake, wafunge ndoa na kuzaa watoto kama Mungu atawajalia. Akianza sasa kutafuta mwanamke mwingine ambaye hakuwa kwenye mpango wake anaweza akaangukia pabaya kwani lazima ataenda kwa pupa kama "mtafutaji". Atampata msichana bila kuwa na utulivu wa akili. Kupata mtu unayemwamini na unayeridhika naye si sawa na kupiga ramli au kufanya biashara ya bidhaa fulani. Mi namshauri asubiri kama anampenda.

Mkuu umenichekesha sana! Lakini unajua kuna wadada wana-mind sana mambo ya elimu. Usike ukakuta mtoto mpaka hapo alipo labda kasoma kwa shida kweli, na anaona mpaka amalize madgrii yake ndipo atulie na kuanza maisha ya ndoa.

Lakini yawezekana pia mtoto hamwamini sana jamaa. Anaona akiolewa saa hizi na kuzaa mtoto huenda jamaa atamwekea ngumu ya kuendelea na masomo yake kwa vile tayari atakuwa chini ya utawala wa mumewe.

Ila ukweli approach ya jamaa mi sikubaliani nayo: ya kutaka kumzalisha mtoto kabla ya kufunga ndoa huku mtoto mwenyewe akiwa bado masomoni! Walau angefunga ndoa, ndo wakajadili mambo ya kuzaa.

kwanza huko vyuoni kuna mafisi hatari sana, unaweza kupoteza muda wako unamsubiri mtu, ghafla unajikuta umepigwa overtake ya ajabu kwenye kona!, watu wanang'oa juu kwa juu, dada zetu wengine hawaaminiki hawa!, ka vp ampe live anataka kuzaa au hataki?

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Full Option: j'ai un rêve- i have a dream!

.....MWAGA MBOGA NIMWAGE UGALI....
live for today,
learn from yesterday,
look for tomorrow.

george_porjie@jamiiforums.com

Mkuu kwanza natanguliza kale kadoubt kangu kama kweli umemrudia Mungu coz hizo comments zako mhhhh hazionyeshi kwamba ni kondooo aliyerudi kundini,
Nikirudi kwenye mada Kwanza kabisa . Yo Yo amesema huyo mdada yuko college na bado miaka minne ili amalize na masters kabisa so maanake bado miaka miwili kumaliza degree yake ya kwanza na miaka miwili ya masters (correct if am wrong) so naona walio wengi wametoa ushauri kiushabiki na Ki-Gender zaidi kuliko kutumia facts, kwanini nasema hivyo mfano kwa wale watoa comments wa kiume just imagine kwamba ni mdogo wako wa kike ambaye yuko undergraduate na bado miaka miwili ya kumaliza undergraduate anakuja kukwambia kaka yake au baba yake kwamba "mchumba wangu anataka kunioa ili tuzae haraka coz umri wake umeenda anahofia kuzeeka kabla ya kuzaaa" utamwambiaje? utamshaurije? je! utamwambia YES GO AHEAD COZ UKIKATAA JAMAA ATAONA HUMPENDI au utamwambia NO MALIZA MASOMO YAKO KWANZA NDIO UOLEWE?
Second, motive ya huyu jamaa ni nini? ni mtoto tu au ni kuwa na mtoto na mwanamke anayempenda na kuwa na familia bora? mbona anasisitizia mtoto tu kama vile ndicho anchokitaka zaidi kuliko huyo mwanamke anayetaka amzalie huyo mtoto?
Third mbona naona watu mnachukulia kama vile mwanamke haruhusiwi kuwa na ndoto na mipango na maaamuzi yake hata kama jambo linahusu maisha yake? wakati huyo jamaa ameshasoma keshajijenga na maisha yake na anataka ndoto yake itimie ya kuwa na mtoto, what about her? why does it look like its right for him to fulfill his dream en she isnt? .
Mie naona huyo mwanaume better analyse himself and his needs, what does he looking for? just a kid? or a kid with lovly wife?

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" To the Degree that you believe you will achieve"

Huyo jamaa yako hajatulia.
Zama hizi hakuna anaekubali kuwa kiwanda cha kutotoa vifaranga.
Mwambie aoe kwanza ndipo swala zima la watoto lije. siyo amzalishe binti wa watu kisha ale kona.


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