Topic: The Power of Letting Go....

Wapendwa,

Ni matumaini yangu kuwa mu wazima na mnaelea kwa raha kwenye bustani zenu za mapenzi. Napenda kuwapongeza sana wanaowapenda (Wapenzi wenu) na ninyi mnaopendwa kwani kwa pamoja mna-make the world a better and colouful place to live! Bravo.

Weekend hii nimekuwa nikitathmini mahusiano yetu kwa ujumla. Nikajikuta nagongana na hii ya power of letting go!! Ni mara nyingi tumekuwa/au kushuhudia wenzetu wakifika mwisho wa mahusiano au mahali ambapo inawabidi kuachana na wenzi wao wengine ilhali bado wanawapenda lakini tu inabidi.

Katika kuwaza na kuperuzi nikakutana na hii ilim isemayo; Ili kuelewa power of letting go, kwanza hatuna budi kuyaelewa mahusiano yetu ambayo ni mitihani kamili ya kutufunulia undani wa nafsi zetu.... They are the true test of who we are because it is the ultimate test of our self-respect!! mh!!.....................

NDIYO nimeguna kwa sababu hapo ndipo kwenye shina lenyewe ambalo bahati mbaya wengi wetu hujikuta (pengine sababu ya shock - hatukutegemea kuwa iko siku tutafikia ukingoni; au ukingoni kumekuja ghafla kuliko tulivyotegemea) wengi wetu tumejikuta tukijishusha na kubembeleza tusiachwe pamoja na kuwa kuna kila dalili kuwa mapenzi yamefikia tamati. Wengi wetu tumejikuta tukijidhalilisha/dhalilishwa kwa sababu tu ya kumng'ang'ania mpenzi aendeleee kukupenda wakati twajua kuwa hata akikubali basi it wont be OUT of LOVE bali OUT of PITY!

Tunasahau kuwa kwenye mahusiano yoyote kuwa wakweli (honesty) and being true kwa nafsi zetu ni MUHIMU ZAIDI ya survival ya mahusiano hayo ambayo unajitahidi kuya-boost. Sisemikuwa wote tunashindwa; wapo wengi tu wanaoweza-handle this situation na wengine wenye mbinu za kulet it go without having anger and resentlments! Kulet-go bila kuwa na hasira na kinyongo.

Please can we share? How to let it GO bila hacra wala kinyongo and to be appreciative for having that person in your life coz s/he must have brought some shades of happiness sometimes when you were together.

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By Bishanga

The power of positive thinking sio?
Lakini na nyie kinadada tukiwapenda pendekeni basi sio muanze minyodo na kutupasua vichwa,mwisho tutawapiga chini tu,halafu siku hizi kinamama kwenye mahusiano uaminifu umekuwa zero,mnakeraaaaaaaaaaaaaaa[/QUOTE]
Bishanga hapo kwenye red ni kina mama tu? kwani siye huwa tunatoka na nani zaid?

gfsonwin acha falsafa,you know what i mean.

By Kongosho

hebu usiniletee uchuro, nikupeleke wapi na sura kama panga la shaba??

Ushajizeekea hata kwa P.O.P husimami lol

Unanzarau? We subiri tu........--

Wanchekesha- tomato sosi FF

By Bishanga

Unanzarau? We subiri tu........--

Kwa kweli nimeondoka na somo la King'asti lol kuachwa ni baraka hahah we mdada nakufananisha na dadangu flani aisee.

Namwona Soulmate Mbu hapo kaja kamwaga maziwa saksafuni kisha kayafuta ila kaacha michirizi . mh hata sijui ni dongo gani nlikuwa nimetupiwa yarabi mie.

We Soulmate hebu bwana rudi hapa unifunze mie nielewe akha!

By MwanajamiiOne

Kwa kweli nimeondoka na somo la King'asti lol kuachwa ni baraka hahah we mdada nakufananisha na dadangu flani aisee.

Namwona Soulmate Mbu hapo kaja kamwaga maziwa saksafuni kisha kayafuta ila kaacha michirizi . mh hata sijui ni dongo gani nlikuwa nimetupiwa yarabi mie.

We Soulmate hebu bwana rudi hapa unifunze mie nielewe akha!

... ;)

Soulmate, Sina la kukufunda upya mpendwa, ur good friend ametoa funzo zuri tu. Dawa chungu ndio inayoponya.

By vanilla

Its very hard but its the wisest thing to do when some thngz dnt work out. Huwa inapunguza maumivu kiasi if both of you understand that even though mnapendana lakini mnalazimika kuachana.kila mmoja akiwa na busara na kuyatafakari mambo kwa kutumia akili na sio moyo,then u will let go without any hatred, anger or any sort of enemity.mtakuwa marafiki wazuri tu bt thats only possible through understanding.

....ubarikiwe sana.

By kisukari

mimi nilishaweza kuachia sehemu ambayo ilikuwa ngumu mno{ndoa}na kukubalika kijamii ilikuwa ni ngumu sana tena sana,nililia weee mpaka mwisho nikasema hapana be strong,you can do it.ila kiukweli,i did the right thing.maana miaka ingeenda tu,na ndani kulikuwa hakuna mapenzi tena.na leo huyo huyo mtu,ni rafiki yangu na tunaelewana kwenye shida na raha.ila siombei yamkute mwenzangu yoyote yule

....kuna jambo wengi wetu hatupendi kukubaliana nalo, kwamba ndoa ni muungano mtakatifu. Nguvu ya sala, maombi na dua mbali mbali kama ni kweli unataka jibu Mw'mungu anakupa jibu mapeema sana.

Tunasali na kuomba mwongozo wa mw'mungu, akitupa ishara (huyo sio!,) ...tunamhoji tena YEYE mjuzi wa yote kwanini isiwe kama tunavyotaka. Mbaya kuliko yote, tunajiambia "potelea mbali" tutaoana hivyo hivyo,

Sali, Omba na Mw'mungu siku zote anakujibu ndani ya siku tatu mpaka ishirini na moja (hata kama hutataka kuamini jibu)

hiyo inawezekana kama unadate mtu unaejua kabisa haitawezekana nyie wawili kuwa pamoja kwa mda mrefu, like dating a married man/woman

ni rahisi kuachana bila hasira wala kinyongo

Na hapa ndo tatizo langu na wewe (huyo dadako kama ni Nyamayao anapaswa awe anakuchapa!). Unabakia kuwaza michirizi ya maziwa, nje anapita muuza maziwa hata kengele ya baiskeli huisikii! Unawaza maziwa sijui yaliyofutwa yalikuwa ya pink (kama ya hippopotumus) ama ya mgando. Hebu acha past iende zake, u are crowding your future and your present as well! Bible inasema 'acha wafu wazike wafu wao'.

Hivi leo si ni jumapili?

By MwanajamiiOne

Namwona Soulmate Mbu hapo kaja kamwaga maziwa saksafuni kisha kayafuta ila kaacha michirizi . mh hata sijui ni dongo gani nlikuwa nimetupiwa yarabi mie.

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By gfsonwin

gfsonwin acha falsafa,you know what i mean.

Bishanga it is the matter of telling the reality and not philosophizing. You know always women are the victims of cheating and the breaking relationships. we are always prone to whatever is seen as immoral according to our culture but also we do love men in true and with all our hearts but its you men who bait us in these bad behaviors.

[QUOTE=MwanajamiiOne;4157196]Wapendwa,

Ni matumaini yangu kuwa mu wazima na mnaelea kwa raha kwenye bustani zenu za mapenzi. Napenda kuwapongeza sana wanaowapenda (Wapenzi wenu) na ninyi mnaopendwa kwani kwa pamoja mna-make the world a better and colouful place to live! Bravo.

Kwa asilimia kubwa, kilicho nyuma ya "kushindwa kulet go" inatokana na kujihisi usiyefaa tena kwa anayekuacha, nafsi inahisi kudharauliwa, kuchokwa na anayekuacha.. Kumbukumbu ya the "love moments you had together" comes next. Na ndo maana kunakuwa na kachuki kwa anayekuwa na "X" wako!!

Ways to Let it go ni kudiscover your pottentials in all aspects, Socially and Economically na kumake use of them in taking your life on. Hii inasaidia kutambua kwamba wewe(uliyeachwa) una qualities zako za kufaa kuishi vyema na kwa furaha. Ofcourse it may still happen ukakumbuka the past lakini kwa njia hii utasahau mapema zaidi. Pia itasaidia kufurahia fully your next love life. All the best.

It may not be immediate but believe me, it is efficient and effective.

By mito

Hivi ni kweli kwamba aliyeachwa ndo ataumia, mi nilidhani kwamba wote wawili mtakuwa na maumivu isipokuwa tu yanatofautiana extent

yap u ar rite wote wawili mnakua na maumivo na inategemea na sababu iliyowafanya mwachane

Gfsonwin, I beg to differ ur honor!
Men get cheated too, they also get abused, Bishanga for one has been there. Why do we, women, have to make such a big out of it? Becoz we have been taught and groomed to behave like victims! Act like a lady but think like a man! What's the big deal? Mie nawaheshimu sana wanawake na wanaume walioweza kujikwamua from useless relationships! Sasa ushinde kombe, afu ulie for most of ur remaining life? Oteeeee![QUOTE=gfsonwin;4161491]

By Bishanga

Bishanga it is the matter of telling the reality and not philosophizing. You know always women are the victims of cheating and the breaking relationships. we are always prone to whatever is seen as immoral according to our culture but also we do love men in true and with all our hearts but its you men who bait us in these bad behaviors.

someni act like a lady n think like Man .

By Bishanga

The power of positive thinking sio?
Lakini na nyie kinadada tukiwapenda pendekeni basi sio muanze minyodo na kutupasua vichwa,mwisho tutawapiga chini tu,halafu siku hizi kinamama kwenye mahusiano uaminifu umekuwa zero,mnakeraaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

bt hat nyie wanaume muwe na choice moja sio kua na options

By King'asti

Gfsonwin, I beg to differ ur honor!
Men get cheated too, they also get abused, Bishanga for one has been there. Why do we, women, have to make such a big out of it? Becoz we have been taught and groomed to behave like victims! Act like a lady but think like a man! What's the big deal? Mie nawaheshimu sana wanawake na wanaume walioweza kujikwamua from useless relationships! Sasa ushinde kombe, afu ulie for most of ur remaining life? Oteeeee!

King'asti you said it right, but umesahau kwamba what makes the difference is the extent ambayo men get abused or cheated ukikompea na women, pia tumesahau kabisa the society at large do govern our responsibilities in a community, i real hate this manake imekuwa ni sababisho kubwa la kumvictmize mwanamke but pia ni ngumu sana kuiondoa.

Narudia tena msemo wangu ambao mara kwa mara huwa nasema kuwa when needs arises kaa pembeni kuepusha msongamano. you know we may be saying a lot of things out of man and a woman relationship ila most of them zikawa na thories tu ambazo in real sense hazina application.

By Mbu

... ;)

Soulmate, Sina la kukufunda upya mpendwa, ur good friend ametoa funzo zuri tu. Dawa chungu ndio inayoponya.

Hahah Soulmate hilo hilo la dawa chungu ndiyo iponyayo mbona funzp pia? Aksante na nlijua tu kuwa unalo la luchangia hapa si ndo nkashangaa umeingia na kutoka huku nyuma ukiacha .......This post has been deleted by Mbu........ ndo majicho yakantoka ati.

Huyu King'asti huyu hatar!

By Mbu

....kuna jambo wengi wetu hatupendi kukubaliana nalo, kwamba ndoa ni muungano mtakatifu. Nguvu ya sala, maombi na dua mbali mbali kama ni kweli unataka jibu Mw'mungu anakupa jibu mapeema sana.

Tunasali na kuomba mwongozo wa mw'mungu, akitupa ishara (huyo sio!,) ...tunamhoji tena YEYE mjuzi wa yote kwanini isiwe kama tunavyotaka. Mbaya kuliko yote, tunajiambia "potelea mbali" tutaoana hivyo hivyo,

Sali, Omba na Mw'mungu siku zote anakujibu ndani ya siku tatu mpaka ishirini na moja (hata kama hutataka kuamini jibu)

Aksante Soulmate nadhani majibu ya maswali yetu mengi kama binadamu yamelala hapa. Ubarikiwe sana.

By King'asti

Na hapa ndo tatizo langu na wewe (huyo dadako kama ni Nyamayao anapaswa awe anakuchapa!). Unabakia kuwaza michirizi ya maziwa, nje anapita muuza maziwa hata kengele ya baiskeli huisikii! Unawaza maziwa sijui yaliyofutwa yalikuwa ya pink (kama ya hippopotumus) ama ya mgando. Hebu acha past iende zake, u are crowding your future and your present as well! Bible inasema 'acha wafu wazike wafu wao'.

Hivi leo si ni jumapili?

Hahahah King'asti nadhani hujanielewa, maziwa nizungumziayo hapa ni ile post aloituma Soulmate kisha akaidelete kabla sijaisoma nikaambulia mchirizi tu kuwa this post has been deleted by Mbu akha1! Ulivyokuwa mkali naona Da nyamayao kakukabidhi kijiti hahah jamani nishakua mbona?

By King'asti

Kwenye miti hakunaga wajenzi dearest. So mie najipimia baraka zangu, hata kuachwa ni baraka. Sasa mbona mie ndo napeenda tena kwa uaminifu ila ndo natendwa! Nna mpango wa kustaafu uaminifu recently, u can be my guinea pig!

Ila mie naona the worst thing ni kufiwa na mpenzi, kama ananiacha tu it is his loss aisee! I believe I'm a good woman and a good lover too. I can brag about that, hehehe!

Aahaa, hapo kwa red King'sti umefanya nimkumbuke dada yangu gfsonwin naye aliwahi kusema something like that, it's good though to be confident with yourself!