Topic: The Power of Letting Go....

Wapendwa,

Ni matumaini yangu kuwa mu wazima na mnaelea kwa raha kwenye bustani zenu za mapenzi. Napenda kuwapongeza sana wanaowapenda (Wapenzi wenu) na ninyi mnaopendwa kwani kwa pamoja mna-make the world a better and colouful place to live! Bravo.

Weekend hii nimekuwa nikitathmini mahusiano yetu kwa ujumla. Nikajikuta nagongana na hii ya power of letting go!! Ni mara nyingi tumekuwa/au kushuhudia wenzetu wakifika mwisho wa mahusiano au mahali ambapo inawabidi kuachana na wenzi wao wengine ilhali bado wanawapenda lakini tu inabidi.

Katika kuwaza na kuperuzi nikakutana na hii ilim isemayo; Ili kuelewa power of letting go, kwanza hatuna budi kuyaelewa mahusiano yetu ambayo ni mitihani kamili ya kutufunulia undani wa nafsi zetu.... They are the true test of who we are because it is the ultimate test of our self-respect!! mh!!.....................

NDIYO nimeguna kwa sababu hapo ndipo kwenye shina lenyewe ambalo bahati mbaya wengi wetu hujikuta (pengine sababu ya shock - hatukutegemea kuwa iko siku tutafikia ukingoni; au ukingoni kumekuja ghafla kuliko tulivyotegemea) wengi wetu tumejikuta tukijishusha na kubembeleza tusiachwe pamoja na kuwa kuna kila dalili kuwa mapenzi yamefikia tamati. Wengi wetu tumejikuta tukijidhalilisha/dhalilishwa kwa sababu tu ya kumng'ang'ania mpenzi aendeleee kukupenda wakati twajua kuwa hata akikubali basi it wont be OUT of LOVE bali OUT of PITY!

Tunasahau kuwa kwenye mahusiano yoyote kuwa wakweli (honesty) and being true kwa nafsi zetu ni MUHIMU ZAIDI ya survival ya mahusiano hayo ambayo unajitahidi kuya-boost. Sisemikuwa wote tunashindwa; wapo wengi tu wanaoweza-handle this situation na wengine wenye mbinu za kulet it go without having anger and resentlments! Kulet-go bila kuwa na hasira na kinyongo.

Please can we share? How to let it GO bila hacra wala kinyongo and to be appreciative for having that person in your life coz s/he must have brought some shades of happiness sometimes when you were together.

gfsonwin, yaani mie siwezi toa ushauri wa kupenda kabisa, nina akili ya kutengeneza hata parachuti au space shuttle.

Lakini mapenzini nina sifuri, sometimes akili inaona kabisa hapa unadanganywa ila moyo unasema tofauti.

Mara nyingi mahusiano ya aina hii lazima uumizwe tu.

Duuh! Ila ww unaonekana boonge la heartbreaker!

Bishanga njoo nikupulize mwaya! Yesu anaweza hata P.O.P. ilipochemsha,lol

By Kongosho

hebu usiniletee uchuro, nikupeleke wapi na sura kama panga la shaba??

Ushajizeekea hata kwa P.O.P husimami lol

he he he, ngoja Paw amuone na Bishanga anakuzengea ambanike na mwiko wa ugali.

Kubreak na kubreakiwa haviepukiki lol

namtafuta mateka simuoni siku hizi

By King'asti

Duuh! Ila ww unaonekana boonge la heartbreaker!

Bishanga njoo nikupulize mwaya! Yesu anaweza hata P.O.P. ilipochemsha,lol

By Kongosho

gfsonwin, yaani mie siwezi toa ushauri wa kupenda kabisa, nina akili ya kutengeneza hata parachuti au space shuttle.

Lakini mapenzini nina sifuri, sometimes akili inaona kabisa hapa unadanganywa ila moyo unasema tofauti.

Mara nyingi mahusiano ya aina hii lazima uumizwe tu.

yaani sasa hapo umeonyesha wazi kuwa wewe wapenda kwa moyo na mara zote moyo ni mwongo but akili huwa inasema kweli. kama imeona unadanganywa why do you have to go for it?

By gfsonwin

yaani sasa hapo umeonyesha wazi kuwa wewe wapenda kwa moyo na mara zote moyo ni mwongo but akili huwa inasema kweli. kama imeona unadanganywa why do you have to go for it?

Hili ni jukwaa gani?

By Bishanga

Elli we fight uwe na pesa ndefu,hakuna mwanamke atakuacha, take it from me,kama ni kuwaacha utawaacha wewe.

Mpwa nilishasaini mkataba wa maisha siwezi kukimbia tena

By kisukari

mimi nilishaweza kuachia sehemu ambayo ilikuwa ngumu mno{ndoa}na kukubalika kijamii ilikuwa ni ngumu sana tena sana,nililia weee mpaka mwisho nikasema hapana be strong,you can do it.ila kiukweli,i did the right thing.maana miaka ingeenda tu,na ndani kulikuwa hakuna mapenzi tena.na leo huyo huyo mtu,ni rafiki yangu na tunaelewana kwenye shida na raha.ila siombei yamkute mwenzangu yoyote yule

Kisukari thank you so much for sharing! Kumbe inawezekana eh?

By platozoom

Kuna binti mmoja alikuwa hovyo sana kwangu, kama kuna kizuri kutoka kwake labda 1% out of 100%. Lakini nikapunguza hasira na kuiangalia hiyo 1%, nikaithamini hiyo na kumnunulia zawadi pamoja na card imeandikwa "Thank you so much".

Nilimwita (alijua kabisa kitakachotokea kwa sababu nilimwarifu) nikamnunulia lunch na baada ya kula nikamkabidhi zawadi. Yamekwisha

Dah aksante sana kwa kushare. Nimesoma sehemu kuwa kwa mtu kukomaa kimapenzi kuna ile isemayo kuwa 'Until YOU let go YOU cannot grow " , kuwa "Great love can both take hold and let go". To let go with love you must, in essence, consciously love your partner.

Conscious love ni ile love ambayo si possessive, dependent wala conditional !! INGAWA, NASEMA INGAWA wataalamu wenyewe wanadai kuwa ni VERY rare kuipata kwa wanadamu (hapa hata sijui wanataka kusemaje yarabi).

By Bishanga

Purple,ushawahi kuachwa? Kuacha je?

Bishanga nimewahi kuacha na kuachana but sijawahi kuachwa lol!

ha ha ha, bwana eeh gfsonwin haya mambo haya wee acha tu

Sometimes risks zina adventure zake bana.

Kuna watu ujue wana ulimbo? Kama Bishanga vile

By gfsonwin

yaani sasa hapo umeonyesha wazi kuwa wewe wapenda kwa moyo na mara zote moyo ni mwongo but akili huwa inasema kweli. kama imeona unadanganywa why do you have to go for it?

By MwanajamiiOne

Ni kweli kabisa Purple simaanishi kuachana kwa vicheko ila pale unapoabiwa/ona kuwa its over basi uumie kiutuuzima kwa maana kuwa unaumia na kukubali kuwa this is is lakini si kuumia na kuanza drama za kutaka uendelee kumuhodhi ilhali ye mwenyewe hataki kuhodhiwa.

moyo ukipenda unaweza jikuta una-act stupid sometimes! Mambo ya mapenzi ni rahisi sana kuongea kuliko kutenda my dear..

By charminglady

MwanajamiiOne bdo nipo kwenye maombolezo ya kuachwa. . . ntachangia nikimalza maombolezo. asante!

Maombolezo ya kuachwa ni miezi mingapi?

By Jodoki Kalimilo

Maombolezo ya kuachwa ni miezi mingapi?

hayana muda maalumu!

By charminglady

hayana muda maalumu!

Pole Charminglady mwaya ninaelewa. Unajua hakuna kitu kibaya na kiumizacho kama kumwondoa moyoni sijui akilini mtu ambaye ulikuwa unatabasamu peke yako kila ukimkumbuka; mtu ambaye yaani kila kukicha unatamani uisikie sauti yake milele afu ndio unawaza kuwa ndo imefikia tamati!!

Pole mpenzi ila nafikiri kuna umuhimu wa kumwelewa gfsonwin kupenda kwa akili. Sidhani kama IKISHATOKEA ni kweli tunakuwa dhaifu kuikubali bali tunajivisha huo udhaifu aisee.

By MwanajamiiOne

Ruta unataka kusema kuwa mahusiano yote yanayovunjikaga (ukiacha yale yanayovunjwa na external forces kama wazazi n.k) huvunjika kwa kuwa mmoja wao huwa hajapenda kweli??

ni kweli kabisa! Kwa sababu mkipendana kweli mapenz haya wez kuvunjika na yakivunjika lazima mmoja haumie!

Unaweza usione kama kuna mtu ame umia kwa sababu hakuna anaye chungulia roho ya mwenzio

na mahusiano yote yanaayo vunjika huacha mamuvi inaweza kuwa upande mmoja au pande zote.

[FONT=century gothic]....Nadhani sijakosea

By King'asti[/FONT

;4158177]MwanajamiiOne, unaujua wimbo wa the gambler? Ngoja nikamuamshe BAK aje aweke vituz. Haya kidogo nachombeza:
U got to know when to hold on,
when to walk away
and when to run.
Sasa wewe unamkimbia simba afu unajutia kumshinda mbio? Akhuuu,hata chura akipigwa teke anaumia lakini anakuwa kapunguziwa safari pia.

Power of let it go, inahitaji ujasiri mkubwa kwani ni moja ya maamuzi magumu ambayo hutuacha majeruhi. Ni pale utakapopata mtaalamu wa saikolojia wa kukushauri namna ya ku-deal na hiyo situation kwa sababu mara nyingi jambo la kuachana huku mnapendana linaambatana na mitihani mingi katika maisha.

Inawezekana baada ya kukabiliwa na mtihani ukajikuta kila unachokitegemea kinajaribiwa kiasi cha kujikuta huna pa kushika, hapo ndipo hata wale uliokuwa unawaamini sana na labda ulikuwahi kuwasaidia hapo nyuma wote wanakutenga na kukuacha usiamini kile kinachokutokea. Tunapokabiliwa na hali kama hii ndipo pale tunapojikuta tukikata tamaa na kumtafuta mchawi. hapo napo kuna hila nyingi, kuna wale wanaopata bahati na kumrudia Mungu, lakini kuna wale wanaogeukia kwenye ushirikina, hawa ndio mara nyingi wanaopata hasara mwisho wa siku na ndio maana nikasema ni vyema ili mtu amudu kukabiliana na hali hiyo atafute mshauri wa kisaikolojia ili aweze kumsaidia kukabiliana na hali hiyo.

Asante sana Best. U ar the best of the best.

By BAK

[SIZE=4][FONT=century gothic]....Nadhani sijakosea

By MwanajamiiOne

Hah King'asti na Bishanga jamani mie kwa sasa naelea kwenye mapenzi. Ninauliza tu maana reflections ni muhimu ati. A very dear friend of mine aliwahinitumia ujumbe huu ...........

Be Smart enough to hold on, be Brave enough to let go Coz leting Go is Letting Life Happen..............It has been a lesson since then.

Mmmmmhhhhh.....i wonder....

By King'asti

Kwenye miti hakunaga wajenzi dearest. So mie najipimia baraka zangu, hata kuachwa ni baraka. Sasa mbona mie ndo napeenda tena kwa uaminifu ila ndo natendwa! Nna mpango wa kustaafu uaminifu recently, u can be my guinea pig!

Ila mie naona the worst thing ni kufiwa na mpenzi, kama ananiacha tu it is his loss aisee! I believe I'm a good woman and a good lover too. I can brag about that, hehehe!

King,unakumbuka thread ya AshaDii ya ku brag?

kila siku una-wonder tu
hujifunzi?

By Bishanga

Mmmmmhhhhh.....i wonder....