Topic: It Better to have Loved and Lost, Than Never to Have Loved at All.. (Is it Though...?)

Msemo huu ukiuangalia kwa upande mmoja ni kweli tupu ila ukiangalia maumivu wanayopata waliopoteza lovers wao unaona una walakini...

Mfano ni kama mtu alikuwa amezoea kula nyama mbichi, huyu bwana atakuwa na furaha na kuendelea na maisha yake bila shaka (lets say furaha yake ni 5points) sasa siku moja akaonjeshwa nyama ya kupikwa jamaa akafurahia sana na maisha yake yakawa bora (hapa tuseme furaha yake ikawa 10pts).. Sasa kwa bahati mbaya siku moto ukipotea kabisa na asiweze kupika tena nyama huyu jamaa atakuwa depressed yaani furaha yake itakuwa 0pts kabisa.., hata ile nyama mbichi ya mwanzo atakuwa hataki tena

Sasa je is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?, je ni bora nionje nyama ya kupikwa (na kupata furaha hata kama ni kwa muda mfupi) au niendelee tu na maisha yangu ya kawaida sina furaha wala sina masikitiko sababu ninachokimiss sikijui

Ignorance is a bliss......

kupenda raha mno, kama unaweza penda hata mara 1000 na zote ukawa dissapointed.

By The Boss

Ignorance is a bliss......

The Boss

Lakini je si kweli kwamba love ndio fuel ya mafanikio mengi..?, nikipenda mtu tajiweka smart, nikipenda mtu nitataka nipate mafanikio zaidi ili nimfanye awe happy... Kuliko nikiwa sipendi takuwa mtu wa without worries and wont be caring.., (and not caring itanifanya niwe mediocre)

By sun wu

The Boss

Lakini je si kweli kwamba love ndio fuel ya mafanikio mengi..?, nikipenda mtu tajiweka smart, nikipenda mtu nitataka nipate mafanikio zaidi ili nimfanye awe happy... Kuliko nikiwa sipendi takuwa mtu wa without worries and wont be caring.., (and not caring itanifanya niwe mediocre)

unachosema its true

but mimi nawajua watu ambao 'wamebadilika for good'
sababu ya heart break.....hawaja recover

so love is for tough people
ukiwa weak bora usijaribu

By Kongosho

kupenda raha mno, kama unaweza penda hata mara 1000 na zote ukawa dissapointed.

Hapo kwenye kama unaweza ndio kuna mtihani mkubwa sababu wengi huwa kwenye first dissapointment wanaelekea kwenye depression na wengine kukimbilia overdose ya vidonge...

Alafu kila wanayempenda baada ya wa kwanza wanacompare na wa mwanzo.., hivyo kuanzia hapo inakuwa ni a slow and painfull fall to infinity

Aisee maumivu ya mapenzi yakiwepo unatamani usingependa, lkn penzi likiwa kwenye peak everything katika maisha inakuwa na maana, hata purpose pia!

Nimekuwa kwenye situation zote, unless kunatokea mabadiliko makubwa ya kimwili na kihisia; upweke ni shida kubwa na yenye madhara ya muda mrefu kuliko an ocassional disappointment hasa unapojua jinsi ya kunurse heart break!

sun wu, ndio maana nikasema kama unaweza. Ujue ukipenda 'bitterness' ya aina yeyote huondoka hutawakumbuka hata wale wa zamani walokuumiza.

Ila kabla hujapenda na una maumivu hapo ndo waweza fanya yasiyofanyika.

Lakini, kinachotusumbua wengi ni kufanya 'replacement' hata kabla kidonda cha awali hakijapona matokeo yake unajikuta umeanguka sehemu isiyo yako.

Tungekuwa na utaratibu wa kujipa 'break' ili kupona nadhani ukija fanya maamuzi mengine unakuwa umetulia zaidi na uwezekano wa kuchagua a 'right erson' unakuwa mkubwa.

Well said Kongosho wengi hutafuta watu wengine kama njia ya kujiponyesha na kwa mtazamo wangu, kwa ajili ya urgency hutafuta wrong people hence shida hujirudia!

sometimes the hurt you get...the disappointment you incur from being in love or loving someone you thought they were worth the hussle....its better not to have loved at all

ha ha ha, eti unaachwa leo kesho umeshaibua mtu mwingine lol

ndo mwanzo kuibia karasha.

By Kaunga

Well said Kongosho wengi hutafuta watu wengine kama njia ya kujiponyesha na kwa mtazamo wangu, kwa ajili ya urgency hutafuta wrong people hence shida hujirudia!

By Kaunga

Aisee maumivu ya mapenzi yakiwepo unatamani usingependa, lkn penzi likiwa kwenye peak everything katika maisha inakuwa na maana, hata purpose pia!

Nimekuwa kwenye situation zote, unless kunatokea mabadiliko makubwa ya kimwili na kihisia; upweke ni shida kubwa na yenye madhara ya muda mrefu kuliko an ocassional disappointment hasa unapojua jinsi ya kunurse heart break!

Kaunga yeah its very true yaani baada ya kulost kila kitu unakiona sio sawa kama zamani yaani everything is incomplete..., lakini (i guess it depends and how the love is lost) kuna watu yaani baada ya kupoteza their loved ones hata wakipata challenges au shida wanakumbuka jinsi mwenza wao alivyowapa courage.., wakisikiliza kitu au kuona jambo wanakumbuka walivyokuwa na mwenza wako na hicho kitu kina kuwa better with a whole different meaning.., yaani although huyo mtu anakuwa hayupo physically lakini they know kwamba she/he will forever live in their hearts na never be forgotten yaani anakuwa kama their invisible companion and guardian... and for these people the previous love give their current life a whole new meaning

By Kongosho

sun wu, ndio maana nikasema kama unaweza. Ujue ukipenda 'bitterness' ya aina yeyote huondoka hutawakumbuka hata wale wa zamani walokuumiza.

Ila kabla hujapenda na una maumivu hapo ndo waweza fanya yasiyofanyika.

Lakini, kinachotusumbua wengi ni kufanya 'replacement' hata kabla kidonda cha awali hakijapona matokeo yake unajikuta umeanguka sehemu isiyo yako.

Tungekuwa na utaratibu wa kujipa 'break' ili kupona nadhani ukija fanya maamuzi mengine unakuwa umetulia zaidi na uwezekano wa kuchagua a 'right erson' unakuwa mkubwa.

ni kweli usemayo lakini how long is a break.., sababu wengine baada ya kuumizwa once yaani wanakuwa depressed and they don't want to give love a chance anymore..., (once bitten twice shy..) alafu hata wakipata the right person wanajikuta hawapo fair as wanam-compare huyu wa sasa na yule wa kipindi kile... and I really believe its hard to luv two people equally yaani lazima mmoja atakuwa zaidi ya mwingine.., hivyo unless huyu wa pili attachment yako iwe kubwa zaidi kwake, (kuliko wa kwanza).., nadhani deep down utakuwa unakumbuka zamani..., na hii itakuwa a case of settling for the second best...

au unasemaje Kongosho

Life is once,if u dont practice love in this life then where else? to be hurted is part of th game!!!
"u cant get out of this life alive"
juc make a wise choice

By Kongosho

kupenda raha mno, kama unaweza penda hata mara 1000 na zote ukawa dissapointed.

Kongosho mie mbona sijaelewa

“It is better to be hated for who you are, than to be loved for someone you are not.”

You take love too serious, live your life the way it comes... do not stress.

By Freema Agyeman

You take love too serious, live your life the way it comes... do not stress.

Meaning? Unaweza ukajidanganya kuwa unaweza kuzuia moyo wako ucpende ukaamua kutafuta friend with benefits ila trust me,you wont see it coming,utastuka tu umeshaingia miguu yote. Love,achana na hiyo kitu kabisa.

By Freema Agyeman

You take love too serious, live your life the way it comes... do not stress.

Freema Agyeman
Can you control the feelings..? au the alternative ni kujiweka katika situation ya kutokupenda ?, na je ikitokea umependa, furaha ya kupenda.., hata kama ni ya muda mfupi is it worth machungu utakayopata pindi umpendae akiondoka / akikuacha ?

au unaniambia "what Love Got to do with it..." its just physical opposite attract nothing more nothing less ?

mfani ukiwa na hamisi akakumwaga, na wewe ukakutana na Shabani maini yako yakapepesuka, usijivunge mpepee tu.

By FirstLady1

Kongosho mie mbona sijaelewa