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Kama amejifungua kwa kawaida na hakukuwa na mikiki mizito basi wiki mbili tu zinatosha ingawaje akina mama wengi wanakuwa hawako tayari hivyo wakati mwingine ni mama anapokuwa tayari kufanya hivyo na hii inatofautiana kati ya mama na mama. Kama ni kwa C section basi ni miezi miwili, lakini miye siyo mkunga

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~*~Life is Good~*~

BAK, asante kwa mchango wako mzuri maana nilikuwa sijui kabisa hayo mambo.

40 days zinatosha kabisa

Hee ama kweli vijana wa siku hizi, Nani kawaambieni kuwa unaweza kumshughulisha maiwaifu wako kabla ya siku Arobaini? Makubwa haya. Ndio maana wake wanasumbuliwa sana na kale kaunjwa ka kutolea hewa chafu kwa mbele. Hata kizazi hakijarudi sehemu yake mmeshaanza kusumbua? Enzi zetu hatugusi wake hadi wakauke na wawe safi. Hata hivyo wataalam wanapendekeza miezi mitatu, iwe amejifungua njia ya kawaida au kisu.
Hapo lakini kazi ipo!!

Mimi pia si mkunga, ila kalufundi haka nilikapata kwa nyanya yangu na mganga.

at teh first place niliwaza kuwa BAK ni mkunga.

Kama umafanyiwa C-section, na haina matatizo yeyote, unaweza jivinjari hata baada ya wiki mbili. Cha muhimu ni confortability, feelings na damu kukata. Mimi pia sio mkunga

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How long do we have to wait before having sex again?

Doctors and midwives advise that you wait four to six weeks after the birth of your baby. The uterus and cervix undergo significant changes during childbirth, and they need time to heal. During this healing phase the lining of the uterus, especially the site where the placenta was attached, is susceptible to infection. Intercourse, tampons, and anything placed in the vagina may introduce bacteria and cause an infection. The flow of lochia, which is a sign that the lining is healing, can last from three to eight weeks. When the lochia flow is no longer bright red, it signals that healing is near completion, and it's probably safe to have intercourse again. However, if your partner is healing from an episiotomy or vaginal tear, you'll need to wait longer still. She'll find out at her first postpartum exam (usually four to six weeks after delivery) whether she has the green light for sex.

But just because you can't have intercourse doesn't mean that you have to rule out intimacy altogether. Oral sex and other forms of "outercourse" like masturbation are safe a few days after delivery. If your mate has stitches from an episiotomy or vaginal tear, be sure you avoid contact with that area in order not to disrupt the healing. While you may be concerned that the bacteria in your mouth could increase your partner's risk of infection, you needn't worry as long as the stimulation is strictly external (in other words, stick to the area around the clitoris). Stay away from the vagina and the perineum and everything should be fine.
Even if you're not up for sexual activity, it's still important to stay physically connected to each other through hugs, kisses, massages, or just holding hands.


Before "jumping back into bed" with your wife, it's important to find out how SHE feels about things. Does she feel physically, emotionally and/or psychologically ready? Giving birth and caring for a new baby are huge, exhausting life events. Hormone shifts and sleep deprivation in the weeks after birth are important factors, also. Have a frank conversation with your wife to find out how she's feeling about resuming intercourse with you.

It's interesting when you say, "It has been almost three weeks and I just can't wait any longer." It's only three — or really six weeks — in your lifetime together. What would happen if you needed to wait longer before having intercourse? Men in similar positions masturbate to take the pressure off, so that they won't explode from blue balls. This is where negotiating and finding common ground are so important. If it's okay with your partner, you can masturbate with her — next to her, against her, or with her touching, kissing, and/or talking with you. All this is to be worked out together. Your needs deserve to be taken care of, whenever possible, if not by your wife, then by yourself. Your wife, the mother of your baby, now has other needs, and the baby has needs, so if your wife can't meet your needs at this time, then it's important to take care of yourself, and be loving and tender with your wife, rather than impatient and deprived.

Most health care providers suggest waiting for at least six weeks after childbirth (either vaginal or by C-section) before having vaginal or anal intercourse again. Some health care providers specify that the woman should no longer be experiencing vaginal bleeding when she resumes having intercourse. After a C-section, an incision may appear healed, but still be vulnerable to stress, and a woman's internal organs are not yet be back to normal, either. Your own obstetrician or midwife can explain her/his rationale, based upon your wife's individual pregnancy and delivery.

Some health care providers ask women to wait until after their six-week check-up, so that there is certainty that healing has occurred, to decrease the chance of infection and to avoid discomfort or pain. On the other hand, some couples are eager to have some kind of sex together so they do not wait till the six-week check-up. If you are both ready to become sexual with each other again, and the six weeks haven't passed, outercourse options and/or oral sex can be fulfilling and pleasurable after childbirth.

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okay, asante BAK.

Kuna wanawake wanapata ujauzito hata kabla ya mwezi kwisha baada ya kujifungua, na maanisha unakuta mtu ana mtoto wa miezi kumi au miezi kumi na moja na kachanga. Hapo lazima atakuwa anaconceive kabla ya hizo wiki sita.

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Tulijaliwa mtoto wa kiume January mwaka huu. OBGYN doctor wa mke wangu tena mbele yangu baada ya kujifungua alimwambia wife kwamba anatakiwa asiwe na contact na kitu chochote "down there" for seven weeks.
Ilikuwa ngumu lakini we managed...My wife had a normal virginal delivery. But this is to say..watu wengine chose to do otherwise kwani mama akiweza kuwa na psychological confidence kwamba hataumia na kama kweli yuko fit down there ku resume majambozz..sioni shida yeyote.

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FAIL EARLY, FAIL FAST, FAIL FORWARD

Mi wangu alipojifungua alikuwa muoga sana ku-resume game lakini alikuwa ananiruhusu nipige pige brash kwenye veranda..It was nice though inahitaji ujasiri otherwise unaweza kuzama!!!!!

You can even practise this kama mazingira yatakuwa sio condusive kwa zoezi la kawaida kufanyanyika kwa sababu moja au nyingine!!